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I am feeling crazy this morning. My brother and sister-in-law are down for a visit and we were catching up. My sister in law and i were talking about what has happened and she wanted to see a picture of the OW. So I went onto her facebook page. She changed her profile picture and it's now this lovely picture of my husband (he is still legally my husband, the pig) and her.

I am so angry and upset this morning. My first thought is that they have definitely gone public. Now people can comment on the lovely couple, the lovely CHEATING whore couple. I am so angry that people think they have this legitimate, honest relationship. I am SO ANGRY FOR THE PRICE I HAVE PAID FOR HIM TO FIND HIS FREAKING HAPPINESS. I AM SO ANGRY FOR THE PAIN HE HAS PUT ME THROUGH. I AM SO ANGRY THAT HE BETRAYED AND LIED TO ME. I AM SO ANGRY THAT MY LIFE HAS BEEN TORN APART.

I AM SO TIRED OF FEELING THIS PAIN1111 THIS HURT111 IT'S ALL I FUCKING BREATHE!!!!!! LOOKING AT THEIR SMILES JUST INFURIATES ME!!!!!

I curse the day that I met you George, I curse the day you came back into my life!! I curse you for the rest of your days.......

[This message edited by jo2love at 12:19 PM, June 6th (Thursday)]

I am so sorry. I know how you feel some what... I was devastated when I checked my ex's activity log and saw how much he searched for his AP and then 6 months later added her as a friend. I think the only thing that prevent me from going crazy was that she refused to accept his add request. Not sure why but I think it is because she saw our wedding photos on it. He tried to hide them but I made sure they were public.

I am waiting for the day that her photos start appearing on his page and he finally publicly acknowledges the end of our relationship. It is still currently a big secret that he refuses to discuss with people. Hopefully I will be in my own relationship by then and won't give a fuck *hugs*

Is it bad that I want to send her a message and ask her how she can attend a wedding for her brother,knowing she's a whore who is sleeping with a married man?

(((dawn58)))

She is trash. Nothing more than a whorey, trashy, skank. You are better than her. You will always be better than her because you don't fuck married men. Stay strong.

Oh do i know that anger when you see what the OW has the nerve to post on FB. Last August OW posted a pic of WH and her son as her cover photo, I was talking to her one time (calling for WH) and told her to remove it before my kids see it, they will be very upset, told WH about it and he said he told her to remove it

In November, it happened.....my daughter saw it, she was at school and was checking out OW FB and she saw the pics, to make it worse, her friends were there with her and saw it too. She was really upset, even sent a VERY nasty message to OW, and OW's reply was laughable, couldnt understand why DD said she hated her, HELLO, DD CALLED YOU A HOMEWRECKER.

OW is so delusional, and the pic is still there. Last time i spoke to OW, i mentioned it, and mentioned DD's msg, she said that her son overheard her and WH talking about it and son got upset!!!!!!!!!!!! What a B**ch, she doesnt give a damn about his kids.

She has changed her profile pic lately, thankfully it is only of her ugly face!!! There are pics of the two of them together but she has it all set that I cant view them unless i am a friend, WH's brother, SIL and cousin are friends and probably see them.

I've showed the pic of WH and her son to friends and they cant believe how much WH has aged, totally grey now, well what's left of his hair anyway

OW have no respect at all for others, do they??????

Not that I'm going to do this, but... A large number of people COULD share the picture on their own FB timeline with the title "This Man is Married and NOT to this WOMAN."

That's just one of several ideas I have

(((dawn58)))

I am so sorry for your pain. I can only imagine how you feel. I am so glad the OW does not use facebook alot and as far as I know has never publicly announced her and WH#2's LTA. I am sure she told her friends and family she was engaged to WH#2. I don't know if they knew he was already married however. I would love to know what she told them when he threw her under the bus. She tried to make me D him by telling me all about their affair on both DDay's. I think that is what made him finally get out of the A, so I guess that backfired on her. I think now sometimes I am holding on to this marriage just so he doesn't go back to her. He knows the next time there will be no chance that I will stay married to him.

You need to stop looking at her facebook. It will only prolong your pain. You must detach and concentrate on yourself and getting on with your life without him.

I don't know which is worse, if they leave you for the AP or if they stay but are not really trying to fix what they broke or fix themselves. Either way is probably equally painful for the BS. I don't feel like I won the prize just because he choose me over her. It should have never been a competition to begin with, which is what OW turned it into. At first I played along, but I did eventually tell him he was free to leave and go be with OW, as I was not playing anymore.

(((HUGS)))

(((Dawn58)))

I'm so so sorry for the pain you are in. I can only imagine the pure agony. It really does speak to her and how sick and purely cruel she is and him just as much for allowing her to post the pic for the world to see and mainly for you to see is my guess. Try your best to focus on you---they are a statistic waiting to happen--only 1 to 2% of relationships created out of an affair will make it. It might be weeks, months or maybe years, but their relationship is doomed. I know it's hard, but try your best to put her on block--she is happy to torture you so don't allow her to have any power in your life. Take care of you right now--and let time and karma take care of them.

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[This message edited by jo2love at 12:33 PM, June 6th (Thursday)]

Shame on both of them.

(((Dawn58)))

I think cliffside has a great idea...

Statistics are against them. I'm so sorry Dawn. You are in a devistating amount of pain.

Please stop looking at her FB. It doesn't help you, and FB is full of exaggerated crap.

NOt going back on facebook, don't need to spend three days curled up on the floor, sobbing my eyes out again.

Thank you all for your support, I greatly appreciate it. This has been hell, I have seen them once together and that tore my heart out again. I just can't keep having that happen, I have no desire to go into that dark place again.

So, screw the two of them. They are both whores and deserve each other. The skank knows that he was married to me and that he is totally capable of cheating. She probably does not know that he is a serial cheater, already cheated on two wives. She will always have this nagging fear that he might cheat on her......and he will, it's just a matter of time. Then she will know the hell the two of them have put me and my son through.

Where the hell is that karma bus?????

(((Dawn58))) I am glad you are in a better place today, Dawn58.

I don't want to minimize your pain because I know how much this truly hurts you. But, I so just wanted to tell you since Thursday.............George is such a DOUCHE!

I saw their picture, and all I could think is "He looks like such a douche!" probably 'cause I know he is a douche. They both looked so fake.

FTG!!!!! He is a douche and you deserve so much better.

Yes, honey, stay away from the Facebook page. It will get better. It really will.

(((Dawn)))

Be assured the karma bus is on its way. It always gets them sooner or later.

She probably does not know that he is a serial cheater, already cheated on two wives. She will always have this nagging fear that he might cheat on her......and he will, it's just a matter of time.

No, she prolly thinks she is so very, very special that your H would never, ever, ever cheat on her.

I'm sure it'll be quite a rude awakening for her when she discovers it.

You should block her. Then even if you are tempted, you won't be able to see her page.

I tagged a photo of XH & ow, very rudely, about 3 years ago. That took some of the wind out of their sails.

Big hugs to you. It hurts, but you will get thru it.

I am so sorry Dawn. Just reading your.post makes me furious for you...selfish, cold hearted aholes they are. Statistically they don't stand much of a chance but I know that doesn't lessen the pain. Just straight up sucks.

(((Dawn58)))

I know how much pain you're in. The OW is a shameless, brazen, thief. Your H is a pompus, egomaniac. The statistics are not on their side. This will not end well for either one of them...

It sucks, you open FB and step in a cow-patty; thank god you're still wearing your bitch boots - now shake off that turd!

I second the motion for cliffside's idea! Come on, it's kinda perfect!

Gee, who wouldn't be proud to be pictured alongside the married man you're screwing?

Let me think...anyone with an ounce of decency.

There are some really brazen pigs out there. I am so sorry that seeing this hurt you. Now dust yourself off and use it to make you stronger.

Dawn58,

Every word you write are my thoughts exactly too. Please know you are not alone with the extreme feelings you are having. I am so sick of feeling this lump in my throat, on the verge of crying nonstop, sick to my stomach, barely get out of bed each morning feeling. Just rage and anger and absolutely no comfort.

I miss so badly to just be able to come home and put on the tv and a comfy robe and just BE comfortable. Just be myself. I have 4 children around all the time and they can be in the same room as me while I am crying that I miss them. It's like living in a world by yourself and you don't know yourself.

My H is with the OW and she lives in the same town and he only got his new apartment on May 1st and out of the 5 times he's had the kids, she and her kids were there twice already and my son tells me they sleep over there! She and her kids KNEW me. They met while I was pregnant last fall! She spent the day in my home the day after delivery and now he has left me for her! Her children make fun to my kids saying they are going to be stepchildren soon.

I just want to die and do not know how to move on. Pain seems to deepen every day with more and more things I hear. Every time I have to see him pick up the kids, I want to kill him and get so anxious, I sob on the floor when he leaves.

He has NO idea what he's done to me...they treated me like the enemy on DD when I caught them...she gave me attitude!

I too just live every day waiting...for something to happen. I can't help it, I know ppl say to focus on your kids and move on, but I just can't until I hear something bad happen with them!

OW shut her FB profile down (or blocked a whole bunch of people) on DD. The day before DD, she had changed her status to single. She had been my FB friend and was posting stuff about "looking for someone to share my happiness with" and "I'm going to shoot for the moon and maybe I'll end up in the stars" while they were in their little romance...for me to see! What a bitch! I'm convinced she's psycho but it doesn't change what happened and what he's done.