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Topic: Struggling

Regretswhatidid
♂ 38494
Member # 38494

Posted: 12:05 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

Almost 9 months and I'm struggling. I'm not struggling with the urge to act out instead I'm still struggling on trying to be empathic and supporting of my wife. I'm up at 04:50 AM monday through friday, by 10 PM i'm beat and falling asleep on the couch. It's almost like I turn into Mr. Hyde after 10 PM. I'm so ashamed of my actions, I want to be there for her all the time.

WH: 45 SA
BW: 34 (bytheboard)
DDays: 9/3/12 ,9/10/12 ,9/12/12 ,10/01/12
,12/03/12,more TT same events 2/24/12
Currently in therapy with a CSAT getting ready to start EMDR.
3x ONS= 2CL hook-ups,1 on TDY
46 Craigslist Ads, AFF, chatrooms,
4EA

Posts: 23 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Connecticut

hardlessons
♂ 35025
Member # 35025

Posted: 12:13 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

So what are you doing to stop struggling? IC, books, etc. If we waywards keep doing what we always did we will always get what we always do. Unfortunately that includes the loved ones around us that we hurt.

Me WH
Wife Tired Girl
3 adult sons
"a wayward...annnnd just a tad betrayed."

Posts: 880 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Arizona

20WrongsVs1
♀ 39000
Member # 39000

Posted: 2:39 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

I want to be there for her all the time

Being there for "you" is also really important. What are you filling all those hours with? It's easy to slip into the trap of filling our days with distractions, so we don't have to stop and look inward at ourselves.

fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
"Between stimulus and response there’s a space, in that space lies our power to choose our response, in our response lies our growth and our freedom." V. Frankl

Posts: 1312 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Redneck land

Listeningclosely
♂ 16472
Member # 16472

Posted: 4:40 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

What 20Wrongs said ^^^

How do you spend the time between 4:30 AM and 10 PM? Have you ever taken an inventory of how your time is spent?

BW(her)- 47, FWH (me) 49
4 month Online EA
M 25 years, together for 29
4 Daughters - 22, 19, 15 and 13
d-day 6/2/07, in R
FORGIVENESS 1/1/2008!!!
"Action expresses priorities." -
Mohandas Gandhi

Posts: 4474 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: One Particular Harbour

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