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Regretswhatidid (original poster member #38494) posted at 6:05 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
Almost 9 months and I'm struggling. I'm not struggling with the urge to act out instead I'm still struggling on trying to be empathic and supporting of my wife. I'm up at 04:50 AM monday through friday, by 10 PM i'm beat and falling asleep on the couch. It's almost like I turn into Mr. Hyde after 10 PM. I'm so ashamed of my actions, I want to be there for her all the time.
WH: 45 SA
BW: 34 (bytheboard)
DDays: 9/3/12 ,9/10/12 ,9/12/12 ,10/01/12
,12/03/12,more TT same events 2/24/12
Currently in therapy with a CSAT.
3x ONS= 2CL hook-ups,1 on TDY
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hardlessons ( member #35025) posted at 6:13 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
So what are you doing to stop struggling? IC, books, etc. If we waywards keep doing what we always did we will always get what we always do. Unfortunately that includes the loved ones around us that we hurt.
Me WH
Wife Tired Girl
3 adult sons
"a wayward...annnnd just a tad betrayed."
20WrongsVs1 ( member #39000) posted at 8:39 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
I want to be there for her all the time
Being there for "you" is also really important. What are you filling all those hours with? It's easy to slip into the trap of filling our days with distractions, so we don't have to stop and look inward at ourselves.
fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
Former motto: "Fake it till ya make it." Now: "You can't win if you don't play."
Listeningclosely ( member #16472) posted at 10:40 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
What 20Wrongs said ^^^
How do you spend the time between 4:30 AM and 10 PM? Have you ever taken an inventory of how your time is spent?
BW(her)- 57, FWH (me) 59. 4 month Online EA, M 32 years, together for 36. 3 Daughters and 1 Son - 32, 29, 25 and 24. D-day 6/2/07, in R. FORGIVENESS 1/1/2008!!!". Action expresses priorities." - Mohandas Gandhi
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