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spldbrt614 (original poster new member #39467) posted at 9:20 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
I just spent over an hour in the store looking for a fathers day card and a birthday card for what might be my FWH (He lied and cheated for at least 7 years with the same OW). Do they make cards for cheaters? All of them say how great they have been and how loving they have been for the entire relationship. That doesn't work for me. I am still here and we are going to MC but I still haven't made up my mind about staying or going. My kids are grown and we are taking him out for combination fathers day birthday and annv all fall within the same week. I cant bring myself to buy cards that are not true but the kids will note if I dont do something. any advice?
twodoves ( member #39181) posted at 9:22 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
I'm trying to figure out how to handle fathers day too
Me - BS
Him - WS (N3v3rG1v1ngUp)
Together 7 years, married for 2
He was cheating for 5 years
5 OW
D-days: 4/23/13, 4/27/13, 5/10/13
1 toddler, baby girl on the way in December
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 9:25 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
If your kids are grown then they should be able to handle the truth that you're conflicted right now about a sentimental card, so are opting out of any card at all this year in the interest of honesty, integrity and authenticity.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
libertyrocks ( member #38924) posted at 9:28 PM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
HAHAHA, cards for cheaters. 
Love you sense of humor.
Right? I don't want to get FWH anything from ME. Maybe a card from the kids with writing and handprints.
Same here. Eff him this year. If it's not genuine, I'm not doing it.
Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 12:09 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
How about giving him a simple gift instead of a card. For example, a bottle of his favorite wine with a small card that just says: Happy Fathers Day, Love spldbrt614
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
PurpleBirch ( member #39170) posted at 12:22 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
I think I'm going with a blank card. ODS can sign it himself, and I'll sign for the baby. I'll encourage ODS to draw a large picture so that there's no space for my signature. Lol
Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.
DS (6), DS (18 months)
Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".
Status: Done like dinner
sadandempty ( member #36710) posted at 12:41 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
My ds7 found the perfect card, it has a chimp picking his nose and the inside says "I picked this card out just for you, happy Father's Day" 
Me BS 30's
Him EXNPDWH 30's
DDay 1- 2012
DDay 2- 2015
"For a minute there I lost myself"
sunshine226 ( member #38851) posted at 3:29 AM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
WH's birthday and Fathers day are a few days apart, last year i sent him a text wishing him HB and HFD, kids didnt get him a card for either occasion, he was with OW and got a homemade card from her son
This year, considering I didnt get a Happy Mothers day, and birthday wishes were a day late, I dont plan on doing anything to acknowledge those days, let OW take care of it, he is with her after all
Not wasting my time with someone who chooses to be with OW, instead of us. Plus this is my son's first official Fathers day and my parents are here for a visit too. Gonna be a great time for all of us 
Someone needs to come up with cards for us and our situation, the money they could make!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him
loveisareddress ( member #36474) posted at 5:18 PM on Friday, June 7th, 2013
I got one of the sappiest, mushiest cards ever.
(I have a penchant for extreme sarcasm.)
Scorched earth-Like Peter the Great, he burns up his own territory in order to gain the upper hand while his own people suffer.
I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.
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