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Topic: Fathers Day Cards

spldbrt614
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Member # 39467

Posted: 3:20 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

I just spent over an hour in the store looking for a fathers day card and a birthday card for what might be my FWH (He lied and cheated for at least 7 years with the same OW). Do they make cards for cheaters? All of them say how great they have been and how loving they have been for the entire relationship. That doesn't work for me. I am still here and we are going to MC but I still haven't made up my mind about staying or going. My kids are grown and we are taking him out for combination fathers day birthday and annv all fall within the same week. I cant bring myself to buy cards that are not true but the kids will note if I dont do something. any advice?

Posts: 8 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Anne Arundel Co Md

twodoves
♀ 39181
Member # 39181

Posted: 3:22 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

I'm trying to figure out how to handle fathers day too

Me - BS
Him - WS (N3v3rG1v1ngUp)
Together 7 years, married for 2
He was cheating for 5 years
5 OW
D-days: 4/23/13, 4/27/13, 5/10/13
1 toddler, baby girl on the way in December

Posts: 160 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Illinois

Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554

Posted: 3:25 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

If your kids are grown then they should be able to handle the truth that you're conflicted right now about a sentimental card, so are opting out of any card at all this year in the interest of honesty, integrity and authenticity.

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10274 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA

libertyrocks
♀ 38924
Member # 38924

Posted: 3:28 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

HAHAHA, cards for cheaters.

Love you sense of humor.

Right? I don't want to get FWH anything from ME. Maybe a card from the kids with writing and handprints.

Same here. Eff him this year. If it's not genuine, I'm not doing it.

Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)

HardenMyHeart
♂ 15902
Member # 15902

Posted: 6:09 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

How about giving him a simple gift instead of a card. For example, a bottle of his favorite wine with a small card that just says: Happy Fathers Day, Love spldbrt614

Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.

Posts: 5835 | Registered: Aug 2007

PurpleBirch
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Member # 39170

Posted: 6:22 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

I think I'm going with a blank card. ODS can sign it himself, and I'll sign for the baby. I'll encourage ODS to draw a large picture so that there's no space for my signature. Lol

Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner

Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?

sadandempty
♀ 36710
Member # 36710

Posted: 6:41 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

My ds7 found the perfect card, it has a chimp picking his nose and the inside says "I picked this card out just for you, happy Father's Day"

Me BS
Him WH

"For a minute there I lost myself"

Posts: 158 | Registered: Sep 2012

sunshine226
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Member # 38851

Posted: 9:29 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013

WH's birthday and Fathers day are a few days apart, last year i sent him a text wishing him HB and HFD, kids didnt get him a card for either occasion, he was with OW and got a homemade card from her son

This year, considering I didnt get a Happy Mothers day, and birthday wishes were a day late, I dont plan on doing anything to acknowledge those days, let OW take care of it, he is with her after all

Not wasting my time with someone who chooses to be with OW, instead of us. Plus this is my son's first official Fathers day and my parents are here for a visit too. Gonna be a great time for all of us

Someone needs to come up with cards for us and our situation, the money they could make!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2013

loveisareddress
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Member # 36474

Posted: 11:18 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

I got one of the sappiest, mushiest cards ever.

(I have a penchant for extreme sarcasm.)

Scorched earth-Like Peter the Great, he burns up his own territory in order to gain the upper hand while his own people suffer.

I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.

Posts: 445 | Registered: Aug 2012

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