DDay happened, still didn't connect the dots. 8 months after DDay, had another outbreak and finally recognized a connection. I researched to see if facial Herpes was even possible (I always heard of genital and oral Herpes only) and found out that, while very rare, it IS possible.
It was then that I went to the clinic and had a full battery of tests done, as did H. Turns out, he brought it home to me. Sadly, I'm the only one of either of us that has physical symptoms of it too... yeah me!
Interestingly enough, I'm having another outbreak right now too, probably why I'm spending so much time on SI over the past few weeks.
I'm so sorry you have this disease also. While embarrassing and painful, it is not going to ruin either of our lives. We will go on, we will overcome it, and we will carry on in spite of it!
I've heard of several couples who are navigating R while dealing with STD's. Hopefully someone will chime in soon.
Since I don't have direct experience with this, you may find some help in our I Can Relate forum with others who have been in your shoes:
STD Support for BS's
[This message edited by 1armystrong at 9:00 PM, June 6th (Thursday)]
so far, we have not tested positive for it.
but just knowing all of this has made it very difficult to r with him. he had no regard for my well being...in any way.
After she checked me she told me I have it. I said to her, I guess my husband has been cheating on me then. She is a very kind dr and she told me I could have had it for years and not known. I told her I knew that wasn't the case because I have a very weak immune system for that to be true.
When I got home from the dr, I called wh and asked him if he had been cheating on me, of course he said no. So I said to him, if you have this would be a good time to tell me. Again he said no. So I said then do you want to tell me how I got herpes?
I found out that not only had he cheated and gave me herpes but that it was with a prostitute.
It is totally unfair that youare having to deal with this but I just wanted to reassure you that it doesn't mean you will have a huge cloud over your life. There are definitely ways to manage the virus. ((hugs))