Oh ick, I got it. My H had been cheating for 5 years. Around the 3rd or 4th year of his infidelity (which I knew nothing of at the time), I got a weird rash around my nose. It lasted for a week or two, didn't think much of it. About 6 months to a year later, I had another weird rash around my nose, again, thought nothing of it.
DDay happened, still didn't connect the dots. 8 months after DDay, had another outbreak and finally recognized a connection. I researched to see if facial Herpes was even possible (I always heard of genital and oral Herpes only) and found out that, while very rare, it IS possible.
It was then that I went to the clinic and had a full battery of tests done, as did H. Turns out, he brought it home to me. Sadly, I'm the only one of either of us that has physical symptoms of it too... yeah me!
Interestingly enough, I'm having another outbreak right now too, probably why I'm spending so much time on SI over the past few weeks.
I'm so sorry you have this disease also. While embarrassing and painful, it is not going to ruin either of our lives. We will go on, we will overcome it, and we will carry on in spite of it!