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User Topic: Why is it that...
healingtree
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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay - I am working my new beginning. I call 2013 the "I don't know what the F*** is going to happen" year...and it has lived up to its name in both good and bad ways, I'm not complaining....

BUT

I get asked out by single guys I am not really attracted to,

And I get hit on by the guys I am attracted to then find out that they are in relationships????

Why is that? Is this just a phenomena in my life or do you experience it too? So frustrating...

[This message edited by healingtree at 7:50 PM, June 6th (Thursday)]


FBS 1st D-day 7-11-07, 2nd DDay Post-Breakup in 8-12
HIM - Doesn't Matter Anymore
The only thing we can change about the past is how we look at it.

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Personally, I don't experience it... Mainly because nobody asks me out. Ever.

I guess sometimes, that's just the way it goes. You know, frogs and princes and stuff.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've poured a glass of red wine over two married douches who hit on me.

I hate wasting wine but y'know....

I haven't been through that phase - I hope I don't. Is there something common in the guys you are attracted to? Something in their personality?


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5656 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
healingtree
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Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what it is! I am taking it all with a good sense of humor, and a beer.

I guess I have to look at it from the perspective of the male who might not be in a relationship that makes him happy, and he is looking for something different, and I am definitely different!

So weird being on the other end of the whole thing...

Please know that I have boundaries I won't cross, and I make that well known. Boom buddy, you are in a relationship and you are flirting with me? Um, no. Been on the wrong end of that stick too many times.

And then there is this other side of me just cussing, Damnit! Why? I liked that guy...

Hmmm....I don't feel like I am putting out any weird kind of vibe. I guess guys may take my open, honest, and friendly attitude as something else, like an open door.

I hope that when they meet me, and hear what I have to say, it makes them think about their relationships. But that is a stretch eh?


FBS 1st D-day 7-11-07, 2nd DDay Post-Breakup in 8-12
HIM - Doesn't Matter Anymore
The only thing we can change about the past is how we look at it.

Posts: 8345 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Here and Now
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, June 8th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Personally, I don't experience it... Mainly because nobody asks me out. Ever.
Me too, nanners. Wanna join my Invisible Lady club?


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, June 8th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm also on the weird end of the spectrum. I'd join the Invisible Club...if I joined clubs.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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