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Topic: Finished Timeline
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Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886 |  Posted: 3:24 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 |     |
It's done. So much for a June 30 deadline. I tend to be obsessive. Been typing for hours. And it's finished. My chest isn't as tight as it was a week ago. A small, very small weight has lifted. But the stress of Mr. C's reaction is there.
He knows a little. But I typed a lot more.
Babe, I'm so sorry you're going to read all that. I'm sorry that you are a victim of my brutality and brokenness. I'm sorry for the hurt. I'd give anything to take this hurt away from you.
People, if you're asked to do a timeline. Just do the dang thing. And for crying out loud, be honest with it. Even if they don't ask for a timeline, do it anyway. Tuck it away for if/when it's needed. If it's never needed, lucky you. If it is needed, at least it's done.
Peace out.
This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Posts: 7909 | Registered: Nov 2011 |
DeadMumWalking
♀ 25341
Member # 25341 | | Posted: 3:36 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
WTG!!! 
Now for the REALLY tough part I guess..... hang in there.
((((Aubrie))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): mid-50's
3 DS: 23, 23, 19
M: 28 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 33
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen
Posts: 6290 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU |
LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369 | | Posted: 3:39 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
((Aubrie and Mr. C))
You did the right thing. Does Mr. C plan on reading it?
Posts: 30659 | Registered: Dec 2010 |
EmotionalFool
♀ 37362
Member # 37362 | | Posted: 3:43 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
WW: 28 (ME)
BH: 28 (SI profile: CrappyLife)
D-Day- 15/10/12
Posts: 334 | Registered: Nov 2012 |
SuperDuperWonderboy
♂ 34716
Member # 34716 | | Posted: 3:51 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
Good job Aub!
My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.
Posts: 1356 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett |
Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886 | | Posted: 3:55 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
Now for the REALLY tough part Yeah, no kidding eh?
Does Mr. C plan on reading it? He's already started.
This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Posts: 7909 | Registered: Nov 2011 |
LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369 | | Posted: 3:59 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
He's already started.
I'll be thinking of you all. If he needs a shoulder, there's a few thousand of us dudes waiting here for him.
Take care.
Posts: 30659 | Registered: Dec 2010 |
TattoodChinaDoll
♀ 34602
Member # 34602 | | Posted: 4:04 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
I'm so proud of you!!!
Me: 35
WH: 36 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 5, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Posts: 1840 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey |
Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886 | | Posted: 4:33 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
If he needs a shoulder, there's a few thousand of us dudes waiting here for him. I will pass the message along. Thank you.
TCD, I've been keeping an eye out on you. You're doing good.
This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Posts: 7909 | Registered: Nov 2011 |
tired girl
♀ 28053
Member # 28053 | | Posted: 4:44 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
WTG Aubrie
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
Posts: 7444 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Inside my head |
MissesJai
♀ 24849
Member # 24849 | | Posted: 4:48 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
good job Aubrie. Very proud of you.
MH - 43
Separated..
Nothing left to give....
"She is clothed with strenth & dignity and she laughs without fear of the future." #BlackLivesMatter
Posts: 7447 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal..... |
Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886 | | Posted: 8:29 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
Freaking stressing out. I shouldn't. But I am.
Not really seeing the victory and "woohoo" in doing this. Just gonna have to deal with this crap all over again. See his hurt and disappointment again. May be worse. May be better. But the wait is agony.
Refraining from spiraling into the cesspool is hard right now.
This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Posts: 7909 | Registered: Nov 2011 |
marion
♀ 33625
Member # 33625 | | Posted: 8:42 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
Hi Aubrie,
Just wanted to say good for you for doing it....hardest thing i ever did was read the my FWH's timeline....but just knowing that he could be that honest after all of the bs was a big step forward for us....it hurt ....more than i expected (if that is possible), but not having it after i asked would have hurt more....it is hard to see past the pain and remember that causing your betrayed spouse more pain can be just as scary and awful (if truly remorseful)...so good for you....and good luck to you both...wishing you peace and happiness.
Marion
Posts: 108 | Registered: Oct 2011 |
KBeguile
♂ 38348
Member # 38348 | | Posted: 9:12 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
You're right, Aubrie. It's not a "woohoo" moment, but it's definitely a moment of relief, release, and acceptance. Nothing more to hide, nothing more to fear. It's the weight off your chest and the monkey off your back. It's not a superlative feeling, but it's better than the alternative.
Please, keep us posted.
Me: WS 34
Her: BS 37 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 7yo
M: 9 years
DDays: 2012/11/14-2013/02/05, 2013/03/09, 2016/02/19
Posts: 824 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis |
solus sto
♀ 30989
Member # 30989 | | Posted: 9:25 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
You're both in my thoughts and prayers.
BS-me, 55; WX-irrelevant
Divorced after an eternity
"So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tenn
Posts: 15256 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest |
starrysky
♀ 14669
Member # 14669 | | Posted: 9:42 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
YEAH Aubrie!!! My H never asked for a timeline either, just had some questions, but never a timeline. Once I came to SI & started reading about it, I did it on my own. 7 years later & he's never read it but I have it locked away should his need ever arise.
It hurt like hell to write it & hurt worse knowing what it would be like should he ever choose to read it, but you're right, the weight does lift a little.
I'm proud of you!
"The grass is not greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it"
Me(37)-FWW/BS
Him(36)-BH/WH The love of my life
2 Daughters: 15,11
Married 14 years Together 17 years
11 Month EA & PA
Beautifully Reconciled
Posts: 585 | Registered: May 2007 |
MovingUpward
♂ 14866
Member # 14866 | | Posted: 10:34 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
Tell Mr. Aubrie that he is welcome to contact me if he wants to talk through this.
Posts: 54405 | Registered: Jun 2007 |
wildbananas
♀ 10552
Member # 10552 | | Posted: 10:53 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
Aubrie, I think you are so strong and awesome.
I really hope things go okay for you and Mr. C.
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
Posts: 16027 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl |
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239 | | Posted: 11:00 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
I'm pulling for you two.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Posts: 25300 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona |
Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886 | | Posted: 11:03 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013 | |
Sending you a PM Moo.
This is the hall of mirrors. Where you will face yourself. Buckle up.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Posts: 7909 | Registered: Nov 2011 |
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