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Aubrie posted 6/7/2013 15:24 PM

It's done. So much for a June 30 deadline. I tend to be obsessive. Been typing for hours. And it's finished. My chest isn't as tight as it was a week ago. A small, very small weight has lifted. But the stress of Mr. C's reaction is there.

He knows a little. But I typed a lot more.

Babe, I'm so sorry you're going to read all that. I'm sorry that you are a victim of my brutality and brokenness. I'm sorry for the hurt. I'd give anything to take this hurt away from you.

People, if you're asked to do a timeline. Just do the dang thing. And for crying out loud, be honest with it. Even if they don't ask for a timeline, do it anyway. Tuck it away for if/when it's needed. If it's never needed, lucky you. If it is needed, at least it's done.

Peace out.

DeadMumWalking posted 6/7/2013 15:36 PM

WTG!!!

Now for the REALLY tough part I guess..... hang in there.

((((Aubrie))))

LosferWords posted 6/7/2013 15:39 PM

((Aubrie and Mr. C))

You did the right thing. Does Mr. C plan on reading it?

EmotionalFool posted 6/7/2013 15:43 PM

SuperDuperWonderboy posted 6/7/2013 15:51 PM

Good job Aub!

Aubrie posted 6/7/2013 15:55 PM

Now for the REALLY tough part

Does Mr. C plan on reading it?

LosferWords posted 6/7/2013 15:59 PM

He's already started.

I'll be thinking of you all. If he needs a shoulder, there's a few thousand of us dudes waiting here for him.

Take care.

TattoodChinaDoll posted 6/7/2013 16:04 PM

I'm so proud of you!!!

Aubrie posted 6/7/2013 16:33 PM

If he needs a shoulder, there's a few thousand of us dudes waiting here for him.

TCD, I've been keeping an eye out on you. You're doing good.

tired girl posted 6/7/2013 16:44 PM

WTG Aubrie

MissesJai posted 6/7/2013 16:48 PM

good job Aubrie. Very proud of you.

Aubrie posted 6/7/2013 20:29 PM

Freaking stressing out. I shouldn't. But I am.

Not really seeing the victory and "woohoo" in doing this. Just gonna have to deal with this crap all over again. See his hurt and disappointment again. May be worse. May be better. But the wait is agony.

Refraining from spiraling into the cesspool is hard right now.

marion posted 6/7/2013 20:42 PM

Hi Aubrie,
Just wanted to say good for you for doing it....hardest thing i ever did was read the my FWH's timeline....but just knowing that he could be that honest after all of the bs was a big step forward for us....it hurt ....more than i expected (if that is possible), but not having it after i asked would have hurt more....it is hard to see past the pain and remember that causing your betrayed spouse more pain can be just as scary and awful (if truly remorseful)...so good for you....and good luck to you both...wishing you peace and happiness.
Marion

KBeguile posted 6/7/2013 21:12 PM

You're right, Aubrie. It's not a "woohoo" moment, but it's definitely a moment of relief, release, and acceptance. Nothing more to hide, nothing more to fear. It's the weight off your chest and the monkey off your back. It's not a superlative feeling, but it's better than the alternative.

Please, keep us posted.

solus sto posted 6/7/2013 21:25 PM

You're both in my thoughts and prayers.

starrysky posted 6/7/2013 21:42 PM

YEAH Aubrie!!! My H never asked for a timeline either, just had some questions, but never a timeline. Once I came to SI & started reading about it, I did it on my own. 7 years later & he's never read it but I have it locked away should his need ever arise.

It hurt like hell to write it & hurt worse knowing what it would be like should he ever choose to read it, but you're right, the weight does lift a little.

I'm proud of you!

MovingUpward posted 6/7/2013 22:34 PM

Tell Mr. Aubrie that he is welcome to contact me if he wants to talk through this.

wildbananas posted 6/7/2013 22:53 PM

Aubrie, I think you are so strong and awesome.

I really hope things go okay for you and Mr. C.

Sad in AZ posted 6/7/2013 23:00 PM

I'm pulling for you two.

Aubrie posted 6/7/2013 23:03 PM

Sending you a PM Moo.