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Topic: Finished Timeline

Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886

Posted: 3:24 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

It's done. So much for a June 30 deadline. I tend to be obsessive. Been typing for hours. And it's finished. My chest isn't as tight as it was a week ago. A small, very small weight has lifted. But the stress of Mr. C's reaction is there.

He knows a little. But I typed a lot more.

Babe, I'm so sorry you're going to read all that. I'm sorry that you are a victim of my brutality and brokenness. I'm sorry for the hurt. I'd give anything to take this hurt away from you.

People, if you're asked to do a timeline. Just do the dang thing. And for crying out loud, be honest with it. Even if they don't ask for a timeline, do it anyway. Tuck it away for if/when it's needed. If it's never needed, lucky you. If it is needed, at least it's done.

Peace out.

"You give me that bottom of the 9th, last at bat, tied game, grand slam, full of butterflies kind of feeling." - My Husband

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6782 | Registered: Nov 2011

DeadMumWalking
♀ 25341
Member # 25341

Posted: 3:36 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

WTG!!!

Now for the REALLY tough part I guess..... hang in there.

((((Aubrie))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: 21, 20, 17
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2925 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU

LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369

Posted: 3:39 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

((Aubrie and Mr. C))

You did the right thing. Does Mr. C plan on reading it?

Posts: 10720 | Registered: Dec 2010

EmotionalFool
♀ 37362
Member # 37362

Posted: 3:43 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

WW: 28 (ME)
BH: 28 (SI profile: CrappyLife)
D-Day- 15/10/12

Posts: 334 | Registered: Nov 2012

SuperDuperWonderboy
♂ 34716
Member # 34716

Posted: 3:51 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

Good job Aub!

My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.

Posts: 1317 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett

Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886

Posted: 3:55 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

Now for the REALLY tough part

Yeah, no kidding eh?

Does Mr. C plan on reading it?

He's already started.

"You give me that bottom of the 9th, last at bat, tied game, grand slam, full of butterflies kind of feeling." - My Husband

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6782 | Registered: Nov 2011

LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369

Posted: 3:59 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

He's already started.

I'll be thinking of you all. If he needs a shoulder, there's a few thousand of us dudes waiting here for him.

Take care.

Posts: 10720 | Registered: Dec 2010

TattoodChinaDoll
♀ 34602
Member # 34602

Posted: 4:04 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

I'm so proud of you!!!

Me (BW): 32
WH: 34 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 17 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)

D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.

Posts: 1761 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey

Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886

Posted: 4:33 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

If he needs a shoulder, there's a few thousand of us dudes waiting here for him.

I will pass the message along. Thank you.

TCD, I've been keeping an eye out on you. You're doing good.

"You give me that bottom of the 9th, last at bat, tied game, grand slam, full of butterflies kind of feeling." - My Husband

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6782 | Registered: Nov 2011

tired girl
♀ 28053
Member # 28053

Posted: 4:44 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

WTG Aubrie

Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5446 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az

MissesJai
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Member # 24849

Posted: 4:48 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

good job Aubrie. Very proud of you.

FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 6072 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....

Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886

Posted: 8:29 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

Freaking stressing out. I shouldn't. But I am.

Not really seeing the victory and "woohoo" in doing this. Just gonna have to deal with this crap all over again. See his hurt and disappointment again. May be worse. May be better. But the wait is agony.

Refraining from spiraling into the cesspool is hard right now.

"You give me that bottom of the 9th, last at bat, tied game, grand slam, full of butterflies kind of feeling." - My Husband

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6782 | Registered: Nov 2011

marion
♀ 33625
Member # 33625

Posted: 8:42 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

Hi Aubrie,
Just wanted to say good for you for doing it....hardest thing i ever did was read the my FWH's timeline....but just knowing that he could be that honest after all of the bs was a big step forward for us....it hurt ....more than i expected (if that is possible), but not having it after i asked would have hurt more....it is hard to see past the pain and remember that causing your betrayed spouse more pain can be just as scary and awful (if truly remorseful)...so good for you....and good luck to you both...wishing you peace and happiness.
Marion

Posts: 108 | Registered: Oct 2011

KBeguile
♂ 38348
Member # 38348

Posted: 9:12 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

You're right, Aubrie. It's not a "woohoo" moment, but it's definitely a moment of relief, release, and acceptance. Nothing more to hide, nothing more to fear. It's the weight off your chest and the monkey off your back. It's not a superlative feeling, but it's better than the alternative.

Please, keep us posted.

Me: WS 33
Her: BS 36 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 6yo
M: 8 years
DDays: 2012/11/14-2013/02/05, 2013/03/09, 2014/12/23

Posts: 809 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis

solus sto
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Member # 30989

Posted: 9:25 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

You're both in my thoughts and prayers.

BS-me, 53
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 9506 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest

starrysky
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Posted: 9:42 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

YEAH Aubrie!!! My H never asked for a timeline either, just had some questions, but never a timeline. Once I came to SI & started reading about it, I did it on my own. 7 years later & he's never read it but I have it locked away should his need ever arise.

It hurt like hell to write it & hurt worse knowing what it would be like should he ever choose to read it, but you're right, the weight does lift a little.

I'm proud of you!

"The grass is not greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it"

Me(37)-FWW/BS
Him(36)-BH/WH The love of my life
2 Daughters: 15,11
Married 14 years Together 17 years
11 Month EA & PA
Beautifully Reconciled

Posts: 585 | Registered: May 2007

MovingUpward
♂ 14866
Member # 14866

Posted: 10:34 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

Tell Mr. Aubrie that he is welcome to contact me if he wants to talk through this.

AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 53990 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation

wildbananas
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Posted: 10:53 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

Aubrie, I think you are so strong and awesome.

I really hope things go okay for you and Mr. C.

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15509 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl

Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239

Posted: 11:00 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

I'm pulling for you two.

May your 2015 be more FUCK YEAH! than fuck this

Posts: 21018 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY

Aubrie
♀ 33886
Member # 33886

Posted: 11:03 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013

Sending you a PM Moo.

"You give me that bottom of the 9th, last at bat, tied game, grand slam, full of butterflies kind of feeling." - My Husband

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6782 | Registered: Nov 2011

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