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User Topic: Finished Timeline
Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's done. So much for a June 30 deadline. I tend to be obsessive. Been typing for hours. And it's finished. My chest isn't as tight as it was a week ago. A small, very small weight has lifted. But the stress of Mr. C's reaction is there.

He knows a little. But I typed a lot more.

Babe, I'm so sorry you're going to read all that. I'm sorry that you are a victim of my brutality and brokenness. I'm sorry for the hurt. I'd give anything to take this hurt away from you.

People, if you're asked to do a timeline. Just do the dang thing. And for crying out loud, be honest with it. Even if they don't ask for a timeline, do it anyway. Tuck it away for if/when it's needed. If it's never needed, lucky you. If it is needed, at least it's done.

Peace out.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6437 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTG!!!

Now for the REALLY tough part I guess..... hang in there.

((((Aubrie))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2680 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Aubrie and Mr. C))

You did the right thing. Does Mr. C plan on reading it?


Posts: 8021 | Registered: Dec 2010
EmotionalFool
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Member # 37362
Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


WW: 28 (ME)
BH: 28 (SI profile: CrappyLife)
D-Day- 15/10/12

Posts: 334 | Registered: Nov 2012
SuperDuperWonderboy
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Member # 34716
Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good job Aub!


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


Posts: 1305 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Everett
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Now for the REALLY tough part
Yeah, no kidding eh?

Does Mr. C plan on reading it?
He's already started.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6437 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's already started.

I'll be thinking of you all. If he needs a shoulder, there's a few thousand of us dudes waiting here for him.

Take care.


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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so proud of you!!!


Me (BW): 32
WH: 34 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1731 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he needs a shoulder, there's a few thousand of us dudes waiting here for him.
I will pass the message along. Thank you.

TCD, I've been keeping an eye out on you. You're doing good.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6437 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
tired girl
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Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WTG Aubrie


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 5156 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

good job Aubrie. Very proud of you.


FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 6029 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Freaking stressing out. I shouldn't. But I am.

Not really seeing the victory and "woohoo" in doing this. Just gonna have to deal with this crap all over again. See his hurt and disappointment again. May be worse. May be better. But the wait is agony.

Refraining from spiraling into the cesspool is hard right now.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6437 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
marion
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Aubrie,
Just wanted to say good for you for doing it....hardest thing i ever did was read the my FWH's timeline....but just knowing that he could be that honest after all of the bs was a big step forward for us....it hurt ....more than i expected (if that is possible), but not having it after i asked would have hurt more....it is hard to see past the pain and remember that causing your betrayed spouse more pain can be just as scary and awful (if truly remorseful)...so good for you....and good luck to you both...wishing you peace and happiness.
Marion

Posts: 106 | Registered: Oct 2011
KBeguile
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're right, Aubrie. It's not a "woohoo" moment, but it's definitely a moment of relief, release, and acceptance. Nothing more to hide, nothing more to fear. It's the weight off your chest and the monkey off your back. It's not a superlative feeling, but it's better than the alternative.

Please, keep us posted.


Me: fWS 32
Her: BS 35 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 4yo
M: 7 years
DDays: 2012/11/14, 2013/02/05, 2013/03/09
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"Everything that happens now is happening 'now.'"
"What happened to 'then'?"
"We passed 'then.'"

Posts: 802 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're both in my thoughts and prayers.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 9044 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
starrysky
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YEAH Aubrie!!! My H never asked for a timeline either, just had some questions, but never a timeline. Once I came to SI & started reading about it, I did it on my own. 7 years later & he's never read it but I have it locked away should his need ever arise.

It hurt like hell to write it & hurt worse knowing what it would be like should he ever choose to read it, but you're right, the weight does lift a little.

I'm proud of you!


"The grass is not greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it"

Me(37)-FWW/BS
Him(36)-BH/WH The love of my life
2 Daughters: 15,11
Married 14 years Together 17 years
11 Month EA & PA
Beautifully Reconciled


Posts: 585 | Registered: May 2007
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tell Mr. Aubrie that he is welcome to contact me if he wants to talk through this.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 53062 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aubrie, I think you are so strong and awesome.

I really hope things go okay for you and Mr. C.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15435 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm pulling for you two.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20459 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, June 7th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you a PM Moo.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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