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mj052 posted 6/7/2013 19:46 PM

It's been a year since d-day for me. I did an earlier post this morning about when do you ever stop monitoring your wayward spouse.

I put a var in his car yesterday morning on a hunch and while I was listening- discovered a secret meeting between him and the mow!! It's very obvious they're kissing and going at it! They're laughing and joking like teenagers. During their meeting our youngest son calls his father- and she says our son's name. "Oh- it's Michael!" I felt like throwing up!

I texted my wh and told him that he needed to make arrangements to find somewhere to stay. Then I went to the bank and got a cashiers check for my attorney! Oddly- I'm not angry! Apparently- I wasn't the prize afterall and our 32 year marriage meant nothing to him!!

I wasted a year of my life in false r!! I feel absolutely numb inside!!! I guess monsters really do exist!!!

Must Survive posted 6/7/2013 19:49 PM

((((mj052))))

mj052 posted 6/7/2013 19:51 PM

The absolute worst- we made love this morning and he told me that he loved me!! It's all so bittersweet- we've been making love for over 33 years- and this morning was the last time!!!

Are these people soulless or what?

nowiknow23 posted 6/7/2013 19:52 PM

Oh, mj! Honey? You ARE the prize honey. He's the idiot who can't see that.

(((((((mj052))))))))

Nature_Girl posted 6/7/2013 19:53 PM

Oh my gosh, how gut-wrenching! I'm so sorry. But I'm very proud of you for standing up for yourself and calling the shots now!

SisterMilkshake posted 6/7/2013 19:54 PM

I imagine you are in shock. I am so very sorry, mj052. Don't be too surprised if you break down later as you are probably running on adrenalin right now.

FTG!!!! He is a heartless monster, and you don't deserve this.

Good for you on telling him to find somewhere else to stay and getting the check. Keep your resolve. You can do it. Post here for support and strength you are doing the right thing for you and your child.

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 7:26 AM, June 8th (Saturday)]

gma56 posted 6/7/2013 19:59 PM

I'm so sorry ! Your gut led you to the truth and now you will never have to live a lie with him.

Are these people soulless or what?

I think there are many that have none.

Then I went to the bank and got a cashiers check for my attorney!
Time to protect yourself. Cancel ALL credit cards with your name attached to the acct. Take half of all cash from all accts.Make sure your keep all transaction records so you can have proof if needed. Money disappears fast when the secrets are out. Don't ever think he will have your best interests in mind at all.

Big Hugs and I was informed of my false R in a very horrible way also.
gma

CheaterMagnet posted 6/7/2013 21:00 PM

I'm so so very sorry.

Ladyogilvy posted 6/7/2013 21:30 PM

You are the prize. He wasn't willing to let you go. He just thought he could have you and everything else he wanted whenever he wanted it.

Now you will prove him wrong and he'll live to regret it.

Too bad they only learn when we are done. You obviously can't keep living thos way. Follow through with throwing him out. Pursue the divorce immediately. You know the drill.

I can only imagine how much this must hurt when you were so hopeful merely hours before.

gonnabe2016 posted 6/7/2013 21:45 PM

I'm so sorry, mj.

Gr8Lady posted 6/7/2013 21:58 PM

Hugs MJ, you didn't deserve this. None of us did.
Your new reality is to take care of yourself. "First"
So sorry for your pain, but proud of the initiative you're taking!

Dare2Trust posted 6/7/2013 22:10 PM

I'm so sorry.

Getting to Happy posted 6/7/2013 23:00 PM

((((mj052)))) I am so sorry.

dameia posted 6/7/2013 23:37 PM

I'm so sorry mj. His soul is as black and dead as his heart.

Nogoingback posted 6/8/2013 04:13 AM

I'm sorry too (((mj))).
He will realise one day what he has lost. Hopefully you are well and truly in a better place by then. Without him.

DeadMumWalking posted 6/8/2013 04:28 AM

((((mj))))

I'm so sorry for your pain. You are right - absolutely heartless.

Hang in there and get your ducks in a row. You are going to need all the strength you can muster. Lean on us here when you need to.

((((mj))))

crazynot posted 6/8/2013 04:38 AM

What a total kick in the teeth. I know exactly what you're going through. Just get yourself protected financially for now and treat yourself like china. You've had a horrible shock and no-one should ever be treated like this. Lean on your friends and family IRL and on us... this is the worst but (REALLY) it WILL get better.

Laura28 posted 6/8/2013 05:14 AM

(((mj052)))

stillhere09 posted 6/8/2013 05:41 AM


I'm so sorry, mj052.

I left a 20 year M before my 2nd M. Over 30 years, I can't imagine.

Sending you strength. You are doing the right thing.

Your numbness may be semi-shock. It may also be that you have been through enough emotionally and are simply ready to move on. It helped me a great deal to look ahead rather than look back at could-a, would-a, should-a' , remember-when, and if-only.


Look ahead. Exciting chapters of your life are in store for you.

Bravenewgirl posted 6/8/2013 05:49 AM

Oh god, you are living my worst nightmare.

I will never understand how someone could be so cruel to a person the claim to love. These people are not capable of love, only selfishness. Unreal!

This man watched you fall apart from the pain of the A, watched you have the love and strength to give him another chance, and then he does it again!!! I am shaking with anger for you.

Get those bitch boots on girl. What a grade A asshole. He has really shit the bed this time.....let him lie in it.

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