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Dreamboat posted 6/8/2013 09:15 AM

And he cheated again and I was freaking out and stressed out running around closing bank accounts and credit cards and trying to figure out were I was going to live. It took me quite a while after I woke up to realize that that we did not stay together after the first time and I had not been M to him for a very long time and I did not have to do anything.

What a freaking nightmare, literally!

BrokenSpirit50 posted 6/8/2013 12:19 PM

Dreamboat, eeesh I hate when that happens. Been there...blah. Here to sweeter dreams....

nowiknow23 posted 6/8/2013 12:22 PM

((((Dreamboat))))

gma56 posted 6/8/2013 14:24 PM

Thank goodness it was only a dream/nightmare !
Can you imagine if that was your life now ?
A dream like that just reminds you to continue counting those blessings.
Gma

fraeuken posted 6/8/2013 15:00 PM

Agree with gma. I have those types if dreams occasionally too and always have a sigh of relief when I wake up

Housefulloflove posted 6/8/2013 15:33 PM

Hate those dreams!

Lately mine has not included infidelity...we'll just be married and living like before DDay as though it never happened. I use to wake up sad from them but now I wake up happy that we are not together.

Runningaway posted 6/8/2013 23:22 PM

I have those sometimes! Another one is were I find out our divorce was never completed properly and we have to do it again. I sleep with my final divorce orders under my pillow. It helps.

Dreamboat posted 6/9/2013 00:24 AM

I sleep with my final divorce orders under my pillow.

That is funny.

I have to tell you that the feelings in the dream were exactly the same stress and panic that I felt during that time between dday and the D. Except I was scared that he would not take the money I had saved since then!!

It was such a relief to wake up and realize that it was NOT my life because I chose to D him so long ago. And at the same time I felt sad for the folks who tried to make R work with an unremorseful spouse and were stuck in limbo for years only to have that final burst of stress and panic because the unremorseful WS once again screwed them. I almost wanted to make a movie of the dream and show it to the folks in JFO as a warning.

And the consequence of the dream is that now I am reluctant to sleep for fear of another dream. sigh...

Infidelity -- the gift that just keeps messing with your head!

Thanks for the support everyone

fraeuken posted 6/9/2013 00:26 AM

I am so with Dreamboat. To wake up and know it was just a bad dream, priceless.

SBB posted 6/9/2013 00:36 AM

After breaking NC and sending the sad clown on an ego kibble bender (complete with approaching me at a school event to hand a PillowPet to me which he could have just returned to daycare at any stage) - I woke laughing from a dream where he was asking for R. I laughed my arse off, so much so I woke myself laughing.

I'm still laughing now just thinking about it.

Not even if he were the last man alive - I'd rather sew it up.

Sad in AZ posted 6/9/2013 06:49 AM

I think you gave me a brain worm! Last night I dreamt we were considering R and he was still cheating (a different OW this time) and that he was into all kinds of weird and kinky stuff--and that my family liked him!! I'm still in a bad mood!

Dreamboat posted 6/9/2013 22:29 PM

EEK! Sorry SiA