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Last night I dreamt that X and I were still M

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 Dreamboat (original poster member #10506) posted at 3:15 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

And he cheated again and I was freaking out and stressed out running around closing bank accounts and credit cards and trying to figure out were I was going to live. It took me quite a while after I woke up to realize that that we did not stay together after the first time and I had not been M to him for a very long time and I did not have to do anything.

What a freaking nightmare, literally!

And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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BrokenSpirit50 ( member #34485) posted at 6:19 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

Dreamboat, eeesh I hate when that happens. Been there...blah. Here to sweeter dreams....

Married 32 years, together for 40
DDay Dec. 17, 2011
No R, D June 21, 2012

Me BS 58
Him WH 59

Now with WBF 3 yrs. DD#2 June 5, 2018

Truth is like surgery, it hurts but heals. A Lie is like a painkiller. It gives instant relief but has si

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:22 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

((((Dreamboat))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 8:24 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

Thank goodness it was only a dream/nightmare !

Can you imagine if that was your life now ?

A dream like that just reminds you to continue counting those blessings.

Gma

BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 9:00 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

Agree with gma. I have those types if dreams occasionally too and always have a sigh of relief when I wake up

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 9:33 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

Hate those dreams!

Lately mine has not included infidelity...we'll just be married and living like before DDay as though it never happened. I use to wake up sad from them but now I wake up happy that we are not together.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

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Runningaway ( member #30707) posted at 5:22 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013

I have those sometimes! Another one is were I find out our divorce was never completed properly and we have to do it again. I sleep with my final divorce orders under my pillow. It helps.

What doesn't kill us makes us smaller. - Mario

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 Dreamboat (original poster member #10506) posted at 6:24 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013

I sleep with my final divorce orders under my pillow.

That is funny.

I have to tell you that the feelings in the dream were exactly the same stress and panic that I felt during that time between dday and the D. Except I was scared that he would not take the money I had saved since then!!

It was such a relief to wake up and realize that it was NOT my life because I chose to D him so long ago. And at the same time I felt sad for the folks who tried to make R work with an unremorseful spouse and were stuck in limbo for years only to have that final burst of stress and panic because the unremorseful WS once again screwed them. I almost wanted to make a movie of the dream and show it to the folks in JFO as a warning.

And the consequence of the dream is that now I am reluctant to sleep for fear of another dream. sigh...

Infidelity -- the gift that just keeps messing with your head!

Thanks for the support everyone

And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 6:26 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013

I am so with Dreamboat. To wake up and know it was just a bad dream, priceless.

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 6:36 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013

After breaking NC and sending the sad clown on an ego kibble bender (complete with approaching me at a school event to hand a PillowPet to me which he could have just returned to daycare at any stage) - I woke laughing from a dream where he was asking for R. I laughed my arse off, so much so I woke myself laughing.

I'm still laughing now just thinking about it.

Not even if he were the last man alive - I'd rather sew it up.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 12:49 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013

I think you gave me a brain worm! Last night I dreamt we were considering R and he was still cheating (a different OW this time) and that he was into all kinds of weird and kinky stuff--and that my family liked him!! I'm still in a bad mood!

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

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 Dreamboat (original poster member #10506) posted at 4:29 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013

EEK! Sorry SiA

And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

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