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"Draw a line under it and move on"

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 hobbeskat (original poster member #38805) posted at 4:15 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

Advice from my MIL to my WH. Made me fume. Its been 3 months, and drawing a line is rug sweeping. I am not drawing a line under my husband having an affair 5 months into our marriage.

This is great, though, because it means if our marriage does end its going to be my fault for not getting over it.

Shes had affairs too and my WH was horrified by them. Apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

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callmecrazy ( member #38765) posted at 4:26 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

Rugsweepers dont fix problems. Sometimes they learn and it is okay, but if theres really a problem (and right after the marriage does look that way and much like my WH who 6 yrs after sexting was "sleeping on the couch" at his single femail friends house and texting etc." If there werent kids, Id be gone by now. Think about the future if you do rugsweep.

Why does he seek this kind of attention. Generally you can never be enough for this kind of person unless they learn to identify thier fault.

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 hobbeskat (original poster member #38805) posted at 4:45 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

I'm not rugsweeping, I'm not allowing it to happen. For the most part he isn't either but still thinks that him being depressed is enough of a reason, when its not.

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confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 4:48 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

So what happens the next time he gets "depressed?"

That's life..it has it's ups and it's downs...ok..so he was depressed..why did he give himself permission to cheat?

Screw his mom. She's an unremorseful WW. You need to tell your WH you would appreciate it if he no longer went to an unremorseful cheater for marital advice...mother or not.

BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10



..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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 hobbeskat (original poster member #38805) posted at 5:01 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013

He didn't ask for advice, it was unsolicited. Yep, exactly.

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