I have 16 yo boy/girl twins.
My DD started having an eating disorder exactly to the date WW started his 2 year infidelity. We all new he was changing but never thought that this was the reason, but I think she sensed it and it put her over the edge.
She became more and more depressed, angry and her eating disorder escalated. After Dday it became even more intense to the point where she was hospitalized.
The thing is, she is going through all the emotions that I am having except it's related to the eating disorder.
She went through the rage of how could you have done this to me and not get me help sooner before it got out of hand. The disbelieve of what was happening. The depression. The horror of it may happen again. The mind movies of it.
The anger towards us especially her dad. The disordered body image that she is not good enough.
She is now out of the hospital and much better, but the fears and concerns and some anger are still present. She is trying to put her life back together just like I am, but it is hard.
She had quit high school and at one point I lost it because of the stress of my situation with my WW and yelled at her and said she is going to end up a prostitute. I am truly sorry and will regret it for the rest of my life for saying that.
It is hard to listen to her and not comment that I know exactly how your feeling because I am feeling the same way, but I don't want to make the situation worse for her. My WW has to now listen to both of us feeling all the issues of his infidelity as related to our situations.
My DS also is on medication because of depression for years, which has worsened since Dday and says he will never trust his dad again and is very angry about it. He is constantly worried about if we are going to stay together.
I hope it was worth it to my WW husband to have his selfish fun with the prostitutes to put his whole family through hell. He is trying to make it right again, but the damage is done.
I wish WS would think before they act.