I got my WH one for his bday this year. He loved it and keeps it on his night stand. Last year his bday was just days after dday and I think we ignored it.
Honestly, I didn't have a problem getting him Christmas presents, this year's bday or his usual easter gift. I did however refuse to celebrate our anniversary and had difficulty finding something for Valentines that I could get behind the sentiment of.
I think next year Valentines will be easier. I am not sure I will ever celebrate our anniversary again.
It will get easier for you to celebrate special days.
Meanwhile remember many guys just are not good at gift giving. Instead of hoping he does something special, tell him exactly what you want to do or get. If he still doesn't follow through, then you kind of know that you're dealing with something completely different.
We just had our 7th anniversary on the 2nd and that day went pretty well. Very low key. Grandparents had DS, we ordered pizza and hung out at home. Granted, I think I paid for it later that week with a couple rage events.
There won't be any other "special days" for us again until dday 1 year antiversery.
PJL - in Waitrose if nowhere else! I have a bunch of cookbooks, so it wasn't totally off base, but the fact it's right around the corner and he didn't even remove the sticker, plus his behavior at the time, means it was an oh sh*t, what can I get her here at this minute?? gift. Sucks about the house; are you ok in it now? They were in 'our' house here, which of course makes it very much his house to me. Redoing everything slowly, but still...
Josephine - LOL wow thanks, they didn't have any when I looked last (granted, at CVS as it was walkable post hurricane) In terms of gifts he had an Amazon wish list, doesn't get easier than that. Apparently didn't have enough time/effort to look at it (like I said, oh sh*t purchase at local store). I guess it's knowing you're not even worth the effort, especially in spite of all the effort they put in the As!! He got a choc for valentine's day, but we ate it (keeping choc from a toddler is hard!!). Didn't feel bad about that. No card.
Heart - I'm glad you pointed out the rage events. The stress does string me and I find myself doing same, mostly because I'm stewing in it when I stop moving for the day and my mind is allowed some room to itself. :( Congrats on pulling off a whole night for it in stride, hoping I can do that soon...
Sure hope it gets easier and easier for us all!
Thanks guys! (((Hugs!!!)