I see your point. But if he was always a sofa-sitting lump, he isn't likely to be able to greatly change who he is, beyond making some small changes.
Also, you are terribly young with many years of possible joy ahead of you, so why are you contorting and twisting your life into such a shape in order to accommodate a sex addict unlikely to change who hasn't exactly been doing anything to change except giving you passwords to the phone you know about and the email account you know about, and whining that you're a real meanie?
I think maybe you have some esteem issues if you think he's the best you can do in life? I have friends whose husbands adore them. Some of them are fat, some of them have faces like a hatchet, yet they're loved and adored. So whatever esteem issues you have that are making you settle for this.... aren't worth it.
Unless he's a multimillionaire and you want him only for the lifestyle and social prestige, then i don't see any other reason to stick around. You CAN fall out of love, you know, if you detach, and then one day will look at yourself and can't believe who you were when with him.
[This message edited by Heavy Sigh at 12:27 PM, June 8th (Saturday)]