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If you can call it that. I really suck but am trying because he loves it. I look around and see no women here. During the A his howorker wanted to learn how to golf. I at the time hated it because our kids were young and I was home. Then he met ow who was young never married and single and free. So that b was with him golfing any chance she could. I later learned that when he would go golfing with his male friend from work she tried to get them to take her too. His friends wife told me she told her husband "that b isn't going with you"
Fast forward to 4 years after R and here I am. I feel like getting a shirt that says i'm the wife not the ho. Just because I never see any wives here. I don't want to look like a Ow.

Love the shirt idea. Sounds like you are having a mini trigger maybe?
Good for you for combining activities with your fwh

Yes, good for you.

I did the same thing last summer. I figured that because he loved golf so much but had to give up his membership at his club, I would learn to golf so that we could have something that we could enjoy together.

I had only golfed a half dozen times before that, but I joined a fun, non-competitive ladies group and improved quite a bit. ( It's so much easier when you are not trying so hard)

Now we can golf together and it is great. I'm still not very good, but I can hold my own.

Don't give up. I'm lucky though that OW didn't do any sports at all that didn't require her to be on her knees.

I would in no way think that you were an OW if I saw you on the golf course, stratus. Go enjoy yourself!

Thank you for the kind responses. It's nice to know that I can come here when feeling angry or sad.

Golfing is so much fun if you relax and just laugh at yourself! Enjoy the beautiful outdoors, relax, take your time.

Some of the most wonderful days spent with STBX were on golf courses. I cherish the memories. I don't ever remember seeing any ho's on the course. A few nutcases yes (myself included) but it's just fun.

I've seem some very bad golfers with tags on their bags from some of the most famous courses in the world. I've also seen some very good shots from people that have no idea what they are doing.

Go. Enjoy the fresh air and the beautiful courses. Try your best to put her out of your head and just enjoy yourself. I always laughed the hardest at my worst shots!