Hours in the car leads to some interesting questions. One of which was "why did Daddy break up with you?"
For a long time that question would have sparked anger, rage and perhaps a barely controlled gritted teeth answer. This time I just sighed and said, "I don't know. He wanted something different. He said we were too different, and that we liked different things." (yeah, he liked sleeping around with whores and putting his junk on Craigslist, and I liked a nice normal boring life...) But I didn't even really think even the snarky background answer. Mostly I am weary of the whole "truth."
The boys were both thoughtful and indignant. They added that "Daddy broke up with OW too." and asked if I hated OW.
My answer and it was the truth: "Not really. I don't like her. But mostly I feel sorry for her."
And the final nugget of hilarity and twisted thinking from unicorn and skittle land? "Daddy made OW fat."
I expressed my doubt over such a thing and got assured that when Daddy met her she was thin but then like two months after she met Daddy... "blerp" she got fat...
I think this is probably narcissitic speak for how OW let him down, deserved to be broken up with, and other rewriting tactics. But maybe it IS truth and she put on a defensive suit of weight to try to shield herself from him. So NOT MY PROBLEM thankfully.
I wanted to post because there will be repeated times of having to talk about this stuff with the kids who bounce back and forth between US and THEM and they will have questions and crazy memories or things they hear ... Navigating the topics of infidelity with kids is HARD. But it gets easier.