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welcome14 (original poster member #26741) posted at 2:19 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
My beloved 24 y/o daughter steals my stuff. all. the. time. from my clothes iron to my flat iron to my shoes that her dog chews to my nail polish remover. 
She then never returns them. Stole my best eyebrow tweezers this week. To take a tick off her dog. 
Told her I needed them back. got nothing from her. Finally get them back and I say "dang it, this is going to lose me my spot on the 'I found Sasquatch show'" I told her that we had had a hot Brigadier General in the clinic the day before and if I had done my eyebrows he might have asked me out.... 
She responds...."I doubt it Mama. Maybe you should look into a push-up bra" This. This is why you should eat your children like other species do......
[This message edited by welcome14 at 8:21 PM, June 8th (Saturday)]
Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 2:28 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
This is why you should eat your children like other species do
Or maybe just push them out of the nest... 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
welcome14 (original poster member #26741) posted at 2:36 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
Yeah, I know. But she is going back to school and is working three jobs so I have to support her in that. Plus, I like not being alone in the house....her stealing is the only problem I have with her.
Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 2:44 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
Does she not have any good stuff you can steal. I mean borrow? 
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 3:41 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
Yeah; I get it. DS completely trashed his room (I never went in there 
) but he was such a good person and such great company, I didn't care. He's worked since he was 10. He was his own person. So, I do get it.
(And I moved out before he did, so the X was stuck fixing up the room 
)
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 6:37 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
Same here, bras gone, lotions etc. DD is 15.
I keep telling her to just ask me or tell me what she needs. But somehow it does not get through.
Trying again next week when she is back...
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 9:24 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
I've got 4 daughters... willing to share for those that would like to experience girls...Sad????? 
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 12:42 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
Sorry, Kajem; I was never more happy than when I heard the words, "It's a boy"
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 1:30 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
When my DD is home from school she brings her much more extensive wardrobe than I have home with her, so it opens up a whole new world for me!
It's fun, we share! And I like her clothes a lot more than she likes mine so it totally works for me.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 2:32 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
1. I have an extra bottle of ketchup you can have when you decide to lite up that grill, lol
2. I agree with borrowing her stuff...or kicking birdie out of the nest
3. My dd is only 7 but now Im thinking maybe its good I dont lose weight. At least she wont be able to fit into my clothes. Good luck for her with the tweezers: im constantly losing them
philly172 ( member #19024) posted at 3:48 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
I think the stealing happens at every age.. my 15YO is constantly taking my stuff & then claiming it for herself. She is ALL girly girl ( who can hit a mean lay up) & I bought the new spray on lotion.. she went ga ga.. over it... "let me try it" has now turned in to me having to go into her room to get MY lotion.
Fortunately for me, I'm short & overweight & she's 5'9" 130lbs so she doesn't steal my clothes but make up & jewelry.. oh yes!! I used to have a caboodle (remember those) full of make up (I'm a cosmetologist & LOVE the make up aspect of it) but since she's gotten older I now have one small (& I mean SMALL) drawer in the cabinet in the bathroom.. DD keeps taking all of my stuff! Her reasoning "You hardly use it!"
"Sorry" works when a mistake is made, but not when trust is broken. So in life, make mistakes, but never break trust. Because forgiving is easy, but forgetting & trusting again is sometimes impossible
welcome14 (original poster member #26741) posted at 4:31 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
so, from all your replies, it would seem to just be a girl thing, not evil motives or bad boundaries. Philly, my daughter is a size 2 and I'm a size 6, so no worries on the clothes either...but shoes! Not got one dress pair left that survived the beagle puppy. Luckily she stopped chewing (the beagle, not the dd..) and Sad, she is great company other than the occasional uproar her tweezer-stealing ways cause. She just left for work at her main job with a hug and "luv u mama". Stealing her stuff doesnt work, because she doesn't even know what she has in that messy room or assumed the beagle ate it. latest disaster- a tube of aveeno hand lotion beagle chewed a hole in then proceeded to lotion herself and the carpet. she sure smells good though.... 
Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 4:55 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
I am with sad on this, this is one reason I am glad I have all boys.
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
Random thoughts ( member #2959) posted at 5:19 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
Reading this post makes me wish I had kids!
Those three words are said too much and not enough.Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.FWW
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 5:20 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
(((random thoughts)))
I'm sure there are more than a few people here who would be willing to lend you theirs for awhile.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
welcome14 (original poster member #26741) posted at 5:41 PM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
oohhh, random thoughts....pick mine! pick mine! lol
Bs- me
Someone I used to know- Him
Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx
I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.
Conflicted1 ( member #39019) posted at 12:35 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
We have three daughters. All moved on now. At the time it bothered me that they took my stuff...now I just miss them and wish they were here to do that. :( empty nest feels pretty lonely many days. Enjoy it.
Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don't expect it from cheap people.
Random thoughts ( member #2959) posted at 12:53 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
Those three words are said too much and not enough.Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.FWW
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 2:35 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
My DS#1 lives here part of the time. Regularly steals my leftover restaurant meals. UNLESS I mark them with a large "NO!" Which makes for interesting conversation in the teachers' lunchroom...
But seriously, I think I'd but a strong keylock on my door. It would keep the peace. You are entitled to your stuff, and shouldn't have to fight about it. A lock would set a clear and real boundary...
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 12:24 PM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
this has never happened to me, although my DDs are a different size than me, especially in the shoe department, and I wear cheaper makeup.
HOWEVER, I could do without the drama that still seems to permeate their lives, even at age 24! Seriously, if you don't have a boyfriend at that age it's a good thing, not a bad thing...!
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