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User Topic: Quick and Good Update
KBeguile
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Content  Posted: 11:53 PM, June 8th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm very pleased to report that I had a heartfelt and very direct discussion with Heart about our situation. I have gained new insights as to her personal feelings and her position, as well as having a better understanding of myself and my growth since D-Day.

The best part, though, is that I didn't take any of it personally, I didn't start withdrawing, I didn't have a pity party, or any of that other "all about me" crap. It was really a great feeling.


Me: WS 33
Her: BS 36 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 6yo
M: 8 years
DDays: 2012/11/14-2013/02/05, 2013/03/09, 2014/12/23

Posts: 809 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:47 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great to hear, KBeguile. In keeping with the vein of selflessness, how did SHE feel about the talk?

Hopefully a followup with her reveals some kind of relief and comfort.

[This message edited by Jrazz at 2:11 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


"The evil that is in the world almost always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence if they lack understanding." -Dr. B. Rieux

Posts: 19222 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
KBeguile
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Default  Posted: 1:54 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

According to her, it was comforting, validating (of my Craniorectal Implantation), and insightful (into how I thought pre-D-Day). I think she's relieved to see that I've made visible progress. Hell, she flat-out told me that "(she) didn't need (me)," and I took it far better than I would have pre-D-Day (which would have been to mope, disagree, whine, and so forth).

Upon further investigation/reflection, we have established that the Fog is now only apparently conditional and contained to certain situations, rather than being wide-spread and interfering in everything I try to do; it's pretty well-contained to my NPD tendencies now. I don't try to do as many "mental gymnastics" with regard to my behavior during my As, nor do I attempt to defend myself or the OPs.

I still need to work on NPD-related issues, but I'm getting there.


Me: WS 33
Her: BS 36 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 6yo
M: 8 years
DDays: 2012/11/14-2013/02/05, 2013/03/09, 2014/12/23

Posts: 809 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:11 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That sounds like a LOT of work. Hopefully you are experiencing some relief from your new path as well.


"The evil that is in the world almost always comes of ignorance, and good intentions may do as much harm as malevolence if they lack understanding." -Dr. B. Rieux

Posts: 19222 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good job, KBeguile! Keep going .


Happiness is an inside job. ---William Arthur Ward

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