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spldbrt614 posted 6/9/2013 15:06 PM

I have printed all the abb that I can find but can't find HB on any of the lists. I also can't for the life of me reason it out. Help!!

Chrysalis123 posted 6/9/2013 15:10 PM

It may mean hysterical bonding.

[This message edited by Chrysalis123 at 3:11 PM, June 9th (Sunday)]

somanyyears posted 6/9/2013 15:12 PM

..refers to hysterical bonding.. also seen hyper-bonding.

it's a stage of recovery from a D-day where you and spouse screw your brains out in an effort to reclaim your sexual rights of ownership to your mate.

..there are other ways to define it but that's sort of the idea!


..PS... enjoy it while it lasts, cuz it doesn't always!?

[This message edited by somanyyears at 3:13 PM, June 9th (Sunday)]

HeartInADustpan posted 6/9/2013 15:13 PM

Hi, spldbrt516 and welcome.

HB = Hysterical Bonding. For me, was a time of increased sexual drive/activity after dday event. It was like "reclaiming" your spouse in a sexual way. Sexually proving you are/were better than the AP. It only lasted a couple weeks for us.

It really varies from couple to couple and I'm sure you'll hear lots of different takes on the subject.

jo2love posted 6/9/2013 15:14 PM

This is from the Healing library.

Q: Why do I want to have sex with FWS? Submitted by Dlee
A: Upon being confronted with the undeniable reality that their most trusted spouse has betrayed them with another, some BS's experience an overwhelming sexual desire for their wayward spouse. Many couples claim to have had the best, most intense and loving sex of their relationship during the period following the discovery of an affair, (generally a few weeks to several months), often trying new things and experimenting in ways they had never considered before. This phenomenon is termed "Hysterical Bonding.

There is very little information on this phenomenon, but it appears to be a primal, instinctual way for the partners to reconnect and reclaim each other. While it may feel counter-intuitive to the BS; as if they are "rewarding" the WS for the affair, hysterical bonding can be a stepping stone to reconciliation. The intimacy encourages communication and a closeness that may otherwise take some time to re-build.

The occurrence or absence of hysterical bonding does not appear to be an indicator of successful reconciliation. Many other factors, such as the WS's remorse and openness are far more reliable indicators. Hysterical bonding is, however, normal, and nothing for the BS to be alarmed about or ashamed about experiencing. In fact, it has been said it is the one positive in an otherwise long and miserable experience, so enjoy it while it lasts!

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