I will say, when we finally did, it was like coming home
It sounds like it is really soon out from the final D-Day, and you posted recently that he wanted "closure" with the OW. Did he manage to see the foolishness of that? Has he maintained NC with her? Are they both still at the same workplace? I ask because I hope the A is really, truly over first before you guys are intimate again... It's not right for him to cake-eat with you and trample your heart again. Also, what does he have to say for himself for what he said to you before about pregnancy sex "creeping him out"? Has he apologized for saying that?
I would say it is necessary because she has texted him a handful of times this weekend, one reminding him how much he hurt her, one picture of herself to taunt him about what he's missing, and then clearly drunk in the middle of the night last night saying she met a guy and was going to have sex with him this morning, she texted apologizing saying "someone else" was texting from her phone...yah, right....the good news is he has shared all of them with me as soon as he got them, erased them right away, and agreed with me that he should ignore them and wait until the no contact letter to address her. Actually, he gave me his phone last night when we went to bed because he said he was worried she would send him a picture of her boobs or something and he didn't want to see them (yah, she's a winner), but she didn't.
We also discussed the whole issue of him not wanting sex with me "because of the pregnancy" a few minutes ago. He says there was very little truth to that, and what it really was was that he felt guilty being with me when he was also being intimate with OW, and that I deserved better than that. He was disgusted by his actions, and he didn't deserve to have me intimately. This made a lot more sense to me. I should mention that he mad the OW get a full STD panel before being intimate with her- so calculated and premeditated! The OW confirmed this to me. He thinks I should be impressed by this, but it just shows that he had so much time to think about it and still went through with it!
Thank you for your support and advice.