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User Topic: tired, depressed and can't friggin believe I did it
gardenparty
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ended things with SO of 3 years today. It was not dramatic, no yelling, no fighting, basically me just saying that I want out. We have a house together so getting out will not be that quick but I want out. Now I am second guessing myself. I feel in my heart that this is the right move for us both but what if it's not. I am so lonely out here without my family and friends but is that a reason to end what has been a pretty decent relationship?


divorced!

Posts: 2993 | Registered: Sep 2006 | From: newfoundland
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((GP))))))

So sorry, I know you loved this guy but didn't you discover him cheating? Sorry if I have your story wrong, I haven't read all the posts here lately.
What happened?

I'm sure this is really hard.


BS, 55 years
D-day 6-2-08
D after 20 years
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!

Posts: 6598 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((gardenparty)))

I'm so sorry. I hear you. Some steps aren't easy to take. Sending you strength and big hugs.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((gardenparty)))))


You can call me NIK

This is it. The darkest day. The blackest hour. Chin up, shoulders back. Let's see what we're made of, you and I.
― The Doctor


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, June 9th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hang in there (((gp)))

You are strong. You are not in limbo. Second guessing happens. I like to make lists. Somehow seeing the reasons WHY written down is concrete and somehow reassuring.


Me: 45, independent, happy, despite parallel parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 15 DS 12
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 6953 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 12:15 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((gardenparty)))


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15719 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Of course you're second-guessing. It's a hard decisions, and a big one. Just remind yourself of why you made that decision.

Fear is the biggest thing that keeps us in a bad relationship. If that is the only thing making you reconsider, then you have made the right decision!

Be strong, gardenparty. You can do this!


Cheating louse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 13 and 16
DDay: Nov 15/2012
Separated Mar 2/2013 after 17 years married. Will we ever be divorced?

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!


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Broken hearted61
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree with what Pass said regarding fear. For me fear can be paralyzingly.


BGF (50) me
WBF (50) him
DD#1 02/23/2012

TT 03/19/2012
Working on R (03/21/2012)
It's over: 5/5/12


Posts: 223 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
seekingright2013
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((gardenparty)))

I like what another poster said about making lists. I find that writing things out clarifies the issues in my own mind.

Also, LOVE your username

Hang in there.


BSO, 53
exWSO, who cares
DD: 11/18/12
DD2: 11/21/12
Kicked him to the curb 11/21/12
I tramp a perpetual journey.
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

Posts: 132 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Red State SE US
NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are you comfortable with the reasons you ended it? I am sure you thought about it long and hard....and I am not sure what the reasons were....

I know it is easy to second guess yourself. But generally, when I end a relationship, I know I did the right thing. If you feel you did the right thing, then don't let the fear of loneliness or being alone change your mind.

(((gardenparty)))


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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