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gardenparty posted 6/9/2013 20:12 PM

ended things with SO of 3 years today. It was not dramatic, no yelling, no fighting, basically me just saying that I want out. We have a house together so getting out will not be that quick but I want out. Now I am second guessing myself. I feel in my heart that this is the right move for us both but what if it's not. I am so lonely out here without my family and friends but is that a reason to end what has been a pretty decent relationship?

InnerLight posted 6/9/2013 20:19 PM


So sorry, I know you loved this guy but didn't you discover him cheating? Sorry if I have your story wrong, I haven't read all the posts here lately.
What happened?

I'm sure this is really hard.

jo2love posted 6/9/2013 21:42 PM


I'm so sorry. I hear you. Some steps aren't easy to take. Sending you strength and big hugs.

nowiknow23 posted 6/9/2013 22:23 PM


caregiver9000 posted 6/9/2013 23:02 PM

hang in there (((gp)))

You are strong. You are not in limbo. Second guessing happens. I like to make lists. Somehow seeing the reasons WHY written down is concrete and somehow reassuring.

wildbananas posted 6/10/2013 00:15 AM


Pass posted 6/10/2013 10:16 AM

Of course you're second-guessing. It's a hard decisions, and a big one. Just remind yourself of why you made that decision.

Fear is the biggest thing that keeps us in a bad relationship. If that is the only thing making you reconsider, then you have made the right decision!

Be strong, gardenparty. You can do this!

Broken hearted61 posted 6/11/2013 16:32 PM

I agree with what Pass said regarding fear. For me fear can be paralyzingly.

seekingright2013 posted 6/11/2013 16:38 PM


I like what another poster said about making lists. I find that writing things out clarifies the issues in my own mind.

Also, LOVE your username

Hang in there.

NaiveAgain posted 6/11/2013 17:19 PM

Are you comfortable with the reasons you ended it? I am sure you thought about it long and hard....and I am not sure what the reasons were....

I know it is easy to second guess yourself. But generally, when I end a relationship, I know I did the right thing. If you feel you did the right thing, then don't let the fear of loneliness or being alone change your mind.


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