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Caldwell posted 6/10/2013 07:26 AM

We are 7 months out from the last DDay, and have been in R since then with a great MC.
Things have been getting better, but I am cycling back into the grief and loss and anger. My mom just died a month ago- I think that is exacerbating the loss aspect.
I had stopped sorting through WH's email, etc. a few months ago. I do believe he has kept NC.
However, his email accounts are really confusing! He has been living in another city during the week for the past year as a loaned employee from his original company ( which he requested to separate himself from OW or he "couldn't" end it.)
His old work account contacts are mixed in with his new work account contacts. I personally blocked 2 of the OW on yahoo months ago. But I noticed this morning that they are both on his new work account contact list....they are work email addresses; not yahoo. I am confused. I confronted him about this once on yet a third work account, and he said the addresses automatically transferred over, he was sorry, and he said he deleted them.
When I pull up the account he knows I have access to, there isn't even a "contacts" folder in there. But when I type the first letter of the OW names, they pop up.
I know this is detailed and muddled. But I am so confused, hurt, and dismayed. If anyone tech--minded can explain this, I would appreciate it. Or if anyone had had a similar experience.....

summerain posted 6/10/2013 07:30 AM

I know you can import contacts. So I believe even if the ow were blocked if they are in your contacts list they transfer over.

There's a multitude of ways to diit. But from m knowledge it all rings very true.

[This message edited by lauren123 at 7:30 AM, June 10th (Monday)]

Caldwell posted 6/10/2013 07:35 AM

Thank you, Lauren! That helps!

Alex CR posted 6/10/2013 07:50 AM

I once had a colleague who changed companies and it was impossible to remove his old email from automatically popping up at the top of the list when I started to type his name. Several times I sent my correspondence to his old company and the person who took his position would let me know...ugh...so embarrassing. I never did figure out to get rid of the old address and have had it happen again with other names. 'Trust but verify' is a good habit for those of us who have been betrayed, though, and there's nothing better than finding something suspicious turns out to be nothing at all.

NoMorDeceit posted 6/10/2013 12:17 PM

My H's company email auto populates when you start typing a name of anyone who works for the company. The only way they get removed is if they no longer work for the company. The person does not have to be saved in the contacts for this happen.

meplusfour posted 6/10/2013 14:12 PM

I had this issue as well. Whenever I typed in the first letters of OW's name in email, her email addresses would pop up as a suggestion. FWH and I had deleted OW from his contacts list but this remained. I spoke to a tech friend who told me that when the email address pops up, right click on it and a window opens up that allows you to delete the address. I did this and the email addresses have disappeared. This only works if OW and your husband do not work for the same company.

Hope this helps.

Caldwell posted 6/11/2013 05:11 AM

They don't work for the same company. Thank you for the help everyone- and solution, meplusfour!