I hope it is legit to have 2 posts here in a row. I am in a rough patch right now.
In WH's newish job that he took to separate from OW, he recently thought he would "be honest" and tell me that a female co-worker invaded his personal space and he thought perhaps she was coming on to him.
I call it wishful thinking.
He shared this after he had had quite a few drinks, or I doubt it would've come out.
I looked this woman up on Facebook, and there is no way she would put the move on WH. I can't mention why in case he ever sees this somehow, but, trust me, his 2 OW were with him to get raises.....which they did. Lets just say he is not someone this gal would even notice right now.He doesn't have the authority to help this one get ahead.
I think it is more a case of HE found himself attracted to HER. My gut rarely leads me astray. I wish I'd trusted my intuition more all these years. To me, someone truly in R isn't even attuned to the opposite sex this early in the restoration process!
So why would someone in R with their wife even SAY this to his obviously wounded wife?!
If he is subconsciously looking for #3, I am done. My counselor told me: one affair...mistake, 2 affairs...perhaps a problem....3 affairs...divorce, because it is pathological.