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User Topic: For those dealing with a Narc in your life
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was just searching for an answer on why someone refuses to apologize for wronging me and came across this. I can totally relate this to my exWW and possibly this other person. It's worth the read:

BS(me) 50
WW 49
1 son 17 yrs old
Married 18 yrs, together 21 yrs

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley

Posts: 1636 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Zombie Land
Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good, article thanks.

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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank for posting that. At first I didn't think Jerkface McGillicuddy was NPD. Just thought some of the stuff he did was normal human nature and he was just extra selfish. Then I started thinking he had NPD tendencies but not really NPD. And most recently I've realized, HOLY HELL HE TOTALLY IS!! Those first few pages ARE HIM.

[This message edited by TattoodChinaDoll at 11:18 AM, June 10th (Monday)]

Me: 35
WH: 36 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 5, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)

D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.

Posts: 1840 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good article.

I know the ex has zero empathy. Several counselors have told him so, and I can see it so clearly. Sometimes I wanted to scream at him "don't you understand how much you hurt me????" but it would have done no good because he has no empathic capacity at all.

I never got an apology either.

Me - BW
2 DDs

Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.

Posts: 4055 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After reading this I think I'm dealing with a narcissistic, passive agressive, sociopathic muppet.

Lucky me!

No apology for me either - I know, SHOCKING!

Sometimes you have to stand alone, just to make sure you still can.

Posts: 58 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you think you are dealing with a Narc. There is a page in the I Can Relate Forum called NPD, there is a lot of wisdom on those pages if you read.

Good luck,


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 6708 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, June 10th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When you realise that your ex or so or WS is a narc, much easier to understand why they do what they do. Understanding is what we what from them, being a narc gives us the answers. All we wanted was for them to understand, but all they wanted was what was good for them. Now we have what is good for us, them gone.

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