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This is what I sent to him when he asked when we could meet:

I might be open to meeting up eventually.....I just prefer to get to know someone a little bit more. You never told me what your favorite places were! :-) What are you looking for on this site?

Here was his response:

Jun 9, 2013 – 11:46pm

Yeah of course...we should definitely text and chat before we meet. Ummm...I'm not too picky, anywhere that has tasty food. I am looking for a good relationship that will last. I don't out a ton so this is a good way to meet people. I hope you are looking for the same.

Thoughts on this....

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 10:10 AM, June 10th (Monday)]

My thoughts are that he wanted to meet you in person, but understands your hesitancy. He seemed to have answered your questions. His favorite places are restaurants with tasty food. His intentions are to meet a woman for a lasting relationship. I do not see any secret meaning to anything in his response.

The response seems 'hurried' to me. I would have spent some time answering your question about my favorites, doesnt everyone have some??? I think I would have added something about myself and then ask something about you. Have you ever been scuba diving??? something!

Just my two cents.

GOD LUCK!!!

Has he actually told you ANYTHING about himself yet?

Just sounds boring and wishy-washy to me. There is nothing engaging there--nothing that would draw me in and make me interested in meeting.

In your first post about this guy I thought that "places" was more along the lines of locations to travel not places to eat. Ignore me if I'm wrong but if I'm right I would take this as him not caring enough to even remember what we were talking about.

Has he actually told you ANYTHING about himself yet?

I have to second Ama on this. It sound like he is trying to just tell you what you want to hear.

Assuming this response is indicative of the level of effort he puts into a relationship - I'd pass.

Yeah...I gave him a nice long response to his question...because it was SO vague! He asked me what my favorite places were and I said that I had LOTS of favorite places such as the greenway because I'm an avid runner..and then I spouted off lots of restaurants that I love but also told him my aversion to sushi because I can't seem to stomach it... as a warning if he is a sushi lover in case that is a deal breaker for him... and told him about my secret love of horror movies... and tried to cover as many "favorites" as I could but that is such a broad topic that I could talk for hours on things I love to do!!!

Then I HAD to ask him for his name...

His response was.... "My name is Daniel... and I love sushi btw"

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 12:00 PM, June 10th (Monday)]

Following what Jennie said, I'd guess this guy is messaging with literally dozens of girls. Seriously. Too little detail, too little effort, too generic of responses - he can't keep everyone straight, doesn't have the energy to invest in anyone, just hoping to hit the "date" stage with minimal input.

Nothing is inherently wrong with a "shotgun" approach, but it's not very successful IME, and the "quantity" detracts from the "quality" in a big way.

I agree Amazonia... and I'm a good catch IMO... I think a guy SHOULD put in a little effort and get to know me! I mean....I'm willing to do the same! Its only fair!!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 12:02 PM, June 10th (Monday)]

my 2 cents...some people just don't like to talk on line and don't come across as "interested" because of it. Maybe he is typing from his phone and that can be frustrating to try to write long responses. This weekend I met someone in person who had come across wonderfully on line (well thought out responses, good questions to me and great responses to my questions). He was less than stellar in person. You never know...

And it is okay to say "meh" and go on to the next person regarding this guy. If you think there was something intriguing about the guy from what you saw on his profile, I'd meet. If not...nothing wrong with moving on...

On line is just a way of meeting someone, you don't know what they are really like until you spend some time with them.

Following what Jennie said, I'd guess this guy is messaging with literally dozens of girls. Seriously. Too little detail, too little effort, too generic of responses - he can't keep everyone straight, doesn't have the energy to invest in anyone, just hoping to hit the "date" stage with minimal input.

Agree 100%.

I agree sounds like he's online busy and perhaps a little jaded by many long winded exchanges that fell flat on their face first meeting.

You've got nothing to lose, why not express to him,in a fun manner, exactly what you have on here?

Could be any of these reasons! Maybe he is on his phone, maybe he's courting multiple possibilities (and nothing wrong with that at this stage) and maybe he's just not great at writing and would rather have conversations in person.

I fell for my guy literally from his writing though. So I'm kind of partial to getting a longer winded answer than what you've gotten!

See....that's how I feel! If a guy takes the time to talk to me....and really get to know me WITHOUT seeing me....gives me a glimpse of who he really is... then it makes me WANT to meet him! Ya know! Guys that send me one-liner answers are a dime a dozen...

Really, if you are not ready to actually meet him, then maybe a chat on the phone now would be in order? In my opinion, he hasn't given you anything to say "yes" or "no" to yet.

URG....so I check my email and he left me a message saying "If I wanted to text him I could... and gave me his phone number..." But, to be honest....texting is almost more impresonal than email IMO cause I can't write as much on text.....or it takes longer...

I noticed he specified text. Grrr..... I'm hesitant...because the last time I gave a guy my phone number he started sending me half naked pictures and asking if he can come over to my house late at night (before he even met me!!!) And, that guy actually talked to me a little more than this one has....

This guy is obviously used to relying on his pretty face to see him through.... been there done that.