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I have really bad depression - have had it for decades - and of course this whole thing with infidelity, separation and eventual divorce has made it worse. However, I've made some changes in the past couple weeks that have been huge.

- My shrink started me on an additional anti-depressant, one that is supposed to help the others that I'm on to do their thing.

- I've totally stopped drinking.

- I've been going to bed at a decent hour.

- I've started leaving my alarm clock on my dresser, so that I have to get out of bed to turn it off.

- I've joined a walking group for exercise.

- Whenever I feel sad, I either go for a walk, or pick up one of my musical instruments to play.

- I've accepted offers to hang out with some new people, and been seeing my existing friends more.

- I've been eating better.

I don't know which parts of that recipe have been effective, but SOMETHING has. I didn't cry at all last week; I did some work and started seeing clients again; I've been getting better at playing my music; I've just been feeling better!

And really, none of that shit is hard to do. Well, okay, I do miss having some wine with dinner, but seriously, a pretty small price to pay for what could become happiness.

I even caught myself smiling to myself while I was shopping the other night. Now how cool is THAT!

I guess the bottom line is that if you start acting like you love yourself a little, you may start to believe it - and you may even like it.

That's great!

Even though I KNOW these things help, sometimes when I get in a downward spiral, I can't seem to act on them.

Glad to see things are lightening for you!

NL

Wonderful news! I have struggled with depression, and I remember feeling such joy when I began to see the world in color again.

Keep up the good work, Pass.

It's really nice to read positive updates like this.

Newlease, I know what you mean. I've spent over 20 years struggling with these. Finally my meds, my shrink, and my kids got me to the point where I was able to do the other stuff.

And thanks, Chrys and Will!

I've been on meds for 15 years, and did talk therapy during and after the D.

When everything is clicking - I feel pretty great. But even with the meds, sometimes I just get in a downward spiral. At least I never get to the point where I can't get out of bed. BTDT

Sending strength and peace.

NL

Wow, Pass - what an amazing update. You're making all the right moves here, and it shows. Keep up the good fight.

Cautiously: