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Pass posted 6/10/2013 10:10 AM

I have really bad depression - have had it for decades - and of course this whole thing with infidelity, separation and eventual divorce has made it worse. However, I've made some changes in the past couple weeks that have been huge.

- My shrink started me on an additional anti-depressant, one that is supposed to help the others that I'm on to do their thing.

- I've totally stopped drinking.

- I've been going to bed at a decent hour.

- I've started leaving my alarm clock on my dresser, so that I have to get out of bed to turn it off.

- I've joined a walking group for exercise.

- Whenever I feel sad, I either go for a walk, or pick up one of my musical instruments to play.

- I've accepted offers to hang out with some new people, and been seeing my existing friends more.

- I've been eating better.

I don't know which parts of that recipe have been effective, but SOMETHING has. I didn't cry at all last week; I did some work and started seeing clients again; I've been getting better at playing my music; I've just been feeling better!

And really, none of that shit is hard to do. Well, okay, I do miss having some wine with dinner, but seriously, a pretty small price to pay for what could become happiness.

I even caught myself smiling to myself while I was shopping the other night. Now how cool is THAT!

I guess the bottom line is that if you start acting like you love yourself a little, you may start to believe it - and you may even like it.

Newlease posted 6/10/2013 10:35 AM

That's great!

Even though I KNOW these things help, sometimes when I get in a downward spiral, I can't seem to act on them.

Glad to see things are lightening for you!

NL

Chrysalis123 posted 6/10/2013 11:09 AM

Wonderful news! I have struggled with depression, and I remember feeling such joy when I began to see the world in color again.

Keep up the good work, Pass.

Helen of Troy posted 6/10/2013 11:12 AM

It's really nice to read positive updates like this.

Pass posted 6/10/2013 11:49 AM

Newlease, I know what you mean. I've spent over 20 years struggling with these. Finally my meds, my shrink, and my kids got me to the point where I was able to do the other stuff.

Pass posted 6/10/2013 11:50 AM

And thanks, Chrys and Will!

Newlease posted 6/10/2013 13:20 PM

I've been on meds for 15 years, and did talk therapy during and after the D.

When everything is clicking - I feel pretty great. But even with the meds, sometimes I just get in a downward spiral. At least I never get to the point where I can't get out of bed. BTDT

Sending strength and peace.

NL

nowiknow23 posted 6/10/2013 15:19 PM

Wow, Pass - what an amazing update. You're making all the right moves here, and it shows. Keep up the good fight.

Pass posted 6/10/2013 22:58 PM

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