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roughroadahead posted 6/10/2013 12:23 PM

So I get a call from my IC this morning that insurance rejected me as not covered. When waffle filed his surprise complaint, the court issues a restraining order prohibiting him from doing things like that. Having received no response to my text on the subject, I called my L.

I am not bothered by this, it will work itself through. Waffle straight up refused to drop MOW as a condition of S instead of D. I know exactly who he is and can move forward to D him with a clear conscience. I've done everything.

So... insurance admin error, or contempt?

ButterflyGirl posted 6/10/2013 12:30 PM

I wouldn't put it past him to do something like that.. At some point the cheating really does pale in comparison to what comes next..

Good luck getting it figured out..

nowiknow23 posted 6/10/2013 12:31 PM

My money's on contempt. What a JAMF.

Nature_Girl posted 6/10/2013 12:47 PM

I vote contempt. However, based on my experience with my STBX, I predict he won't actually get in trouble.

roughroadahead posted 6/10/2013 15:05 PM

Not contempt! By some miracle, I am fully covered per the insurance company.

I think marrying MOW once the respective Ds are final may be on the cards.

Finally, if I hear "I did not leave the kids. I left you" (actually I pulled the trigger, but whatever) one more time, I will punch something. Wed evening and EOW, asshole?? Yeah, that sounds like you're there for them.

[This message edited by roughroadahead at 3:11 PM, June 10th (Monday)]

hummingbird8 posted 6/10/2013 15:23 PM

Not to threadjack, but when my DH (not the one who brought me here) left his ex wife with no cheating involved she liked to throw it in his face in front of their son how he left their son. He chose to leave her and the marriage, not his son. If he could have gotten joint custody he would yet he is stuck with Thursday's and EOW.

I know the cheating hurts but I do hope you can learn to understand if someone leaves a marriage it doesn't mean they leave the kids. Some do. Some choose to never see their kids or pay support so if he is doing those things I can see his point. The cheating is awful.

Good luck.

roughroadahead posted 6/10/2013 15:36 PM

If waffle had put a solid effort into the marriage, and it didn't work out, point well taken. I don't think anyone should stay in a marriage because they have children. However, I do think Waffle owed it to his kids to at least try, or to make a clean break. What happened instead was maybe a week of NC, if that, and underground A/false R, lying to the MC, a fake NC email.... that is why I say he left them. He never actually tried.