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NewMom0220 posted 6/10/2013 12:55 PM

I am never one to celebrate the misfortune of others. That's not my thing. I'm always the one amongst friends and family that tries to see the other side of things and always gives people the benefit of the doubt. Am I perfect? No...but for the most part I'm nice....unless you eff with me.

Well after 3 months of doing what we all do...obsessing about the OW, having revenge fantasies, having feelings of injustice because the OW gets to go on with her shitty little life unscathed while WH and I are drudging through the aftermath of the A Tsunami...well the Karma bus has actually hit and I couldn't be happier.

This weekend I had some nice interactions with the WS. He is reading what I've asked him to read, he is spending more time with me, actually talking about his shame/guilt, going to MC and actually talking. I see some progress....he isn't the KISA that I kept thinking would show up, but I sense and feel real remorse and some glimmer of empathy from his part. I see a desire to try to make things right. I take it all in with a grain of salt.

Well clearly it hasn't stopped me from checking on the OW. I googled her last night and the most amazing thing popped up...A MUG SHOT!!!!!! A horrible mug shot with black mascara stains running down her toughened leatherlike face. Awww, poor baby. (BTW, she has two other mugshots online from her past, this one is from just a few weeks ago.....yay!!!!)

Ok, let's see...who should I thank? First off...I'd like to thank....the State of Georgia for posting your mugshots online. Thank you to everyone on SI who says don't contact or seek revenge on the OW because she just isn't worth it. Thank you to the Universe for restoring a sense of balance in the world. Thank you to me for googling the B and checking on her ....it finally paid off.

Ok, I'm being sarcastic, I hate for other people to be in pain or to suffer...but she got busted with a DUI and that is her fault, not mine. The really awesomely atrocious mugshot is also her fault, she is an ugly trashhole after all.

So as I take a victory lap in my head, I do realize that she isn't the one who betrayed me or ignored her marriage vows...she wasn't married to me. But let this be a lesson to all the trifling hoes out there. Karma is a B and when you mess with me, so am I.

[This message edited by NewMom0220 at 12:57 PM, June 10th (Monday)]

Ladyogilvy posted 6/10/2013 13:16 PM

Thank you for sharing. I used to be a much nicer person than I am now. I once really believed everyone was doing the best they could with what they had... Now I don't care. A waste of food is a waste of food. I love karma and revenge stories. I'm looking forward to the people who supported WH regarding his A getting what they deserve. I don't care if they were just trying to stay in his good graces for the sake of their careers. I hate them. One took it so far, he was clearly enjoying it... He needs to pay.

crestfallen posted 6/10/2013 13:21 PM

My HO got fired!

Say you love it!!!

crazyblindsided posted 6/10/2013 14:37 PM

Beep Beep

FaithFool posted 6/10/2013 15:00 PM

What did she do??

stillhere09 posted 6/11/2013 02:38 AM

NewMom0220 posted 6/11/2013 08:43 AM

She got a DUI. I have not shared this finding with my WS because things seem to be settling down and we are in counseling and I don't see how reveling in her misfortune would do us any good at this point. I'd rather save any A talk for the counseling sessions. This little tidbit I'll keep to myself...along with her mugshot. I so badly want to text her some kind of snarky comment...but I'll add that to my library of revenge fantasies. Right after DDay, in my crazed state, I called her number after I confronted my WS (the number I found on the cell phone bill, sent her a few texts saying "what kind of low life would sleep with a married man with a pregnant wife," and called her and left her a message saying "this is WS's wife, I would like to talk to you." Obviously she never responded and I found out her name and info thanks to my resourceful Sister in Law and an $8 online reverse phone number search.

Sometimes all you have to do is sit back and watch the Universe take care of your enemies for you.

I have this amazing baby that I've been blessed with and my conscious is clean...so hahaha....I win!

I wish I could say hahaha I win because she did not destroy my family...but the jury is still out on my sort of remorseful WS. I'm just glad that I can now bury that pesky thought that she got to get off scott free while I suffer.

[This message edited by NewMom0220 at 8:46 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)]

Sue1964 posted 6/11/2013 14:13 PM

It was hits and what a feeling.for me knowing life is going better than I thought poss in every department.and knowing h is not happy))

Kalliopeia posted 6/11/2013 18:55 PM

hahah State of Georgia.. somehow I find that hilarious.

FeelingSoMuch posted 6/11/2013 21:03 PM

I'm celebrating with you :-)

Thanks for sharing.

AussieMum posted 6/11/2013 23:13 PM

oh I can just picture the smile on your face when you saw that mugshot LOL