I've been hesitant to start the process now because I am afraid to re-live all that pain but I know it is something I have to do.
Bumping this up hoping you get some responses from non-catholics.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
In the Bible belt, my alcoholic Catholic brorher in law wanted to marry his heathen still married wife. For about 2 thousand dollars they were married Catholic right after her divorce was final. Go figure.
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
My questions are more centered around how a non catholic goes through this. My friend is doing this all for the sake of his bride to be, but it is costly, taking a long time, and honestly very offensive in their questions. His father was asked about his sex life, his contraceptive use, everything.
My SO is Catholic and he is going down the path to annulment. If we were to ever marry and want our marriage recognized (as he wishes) I will need to get an annulment too. I honestly don't know how I feel about having 3 of my family/friends asked about my very personal life.
I'm Catholic and recently went through the annulment process. XH is not Catholic, but since I filled out all of the paperwork and had 5 witnesses from my family/friends and his family (that I asked to participate) answer questions about my relationship with XH and our own personal backgrounds, XH is allowed to re-marry in the Catholic church. XH didn't have to do anything, however he was invited to share his side of the story if he wanted to. He preferred not to "re-live" our relationship history. While it was difficult for me at times to answer the questions, it was a healing process for me to write out my story and think about things a bit differently. I'm glad that it's done.
It didn't cost me anything besides time. I gave a donation to a program that helps fund the council (CSA), but I wasn't asked to give anything for the annulment. I agree the questions are personal, but that is how they make a decision about the marriage. I found the Archdiocese of Baltimore and read the questions they have for the application. It looks pretty cut and dry. It's not as extensive at the one for Detroit. http://www.aod.org/being-catholic/marriage-and-family/separation-and-divorce/annulment-information/ I don't know what questions are asked for the witnesses. I think they were very similar to what I answered in my application. My mom said I could look at her questions/answers, but I haven't yet.
Do you think you will eventually marry your SO? Is that why you're asking about the process? What does your SO say about it?
3 boys: 11 years, 9 years, and 11 months
but any marriage between any faith (protestant, Jewish, etc) needs to be annulled before you can remarry in the Catholic faith.
XWW's 1st H was catholic. When we started talkign to the priest about getting M'ed, my annulment had been completed. He said she would need one unless one of a dew circumstances were met. One of those were that her ex was a catholic but they were not M'ed in the church. I guess by definition, if a catholic M's outside of his or her faith and does not have the M blessed then a covenant does not exist. At least that is how is was explained to me in Austin, TX.
And there was no charge for it but a donation was strongly encouraged. I have heard many stories of people paying for an annulment or not. IDK - I don't think it is something you can pay for. THat would be a conflict of interest.
SO and I have talked about marriage and what we would both want. I am Presbyterian and while I have a strong faith, I don't need to have a Presb wedding. SO was raised a die hard Catholic and went to Catholic school from K-12. I have said in the past that I would have a Catholic wedding because it meant more to him than me.
What is going on right now is that his niece is getting married to a non-Catholic who was previously married. They started the process over a year ago and it isn't near completion. The process is long, costly and when I heard about the questions that were asked of him and his family, I admit I am having second thoughts going through this. SO knows my feelings and doesn't want me to do something that is offensive/embarrassing to me, he would never insist on it. We are meeting w a friend of his who is a deacon so that we can have some questions answered but everything I'm hearing isn't sounding so good to me.