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Listeningclosely (original poster member #16472) posted at 12:45 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
It's been quite a while since I've had this out there. I know it helped me through the darkest points of my healing journey. Maybe it will help a few of you too who are early in your healing process. This is the mantra I literally read daily until it became who I was.
I made a terrible decision which caused more pain than I can possibly imagine and has no possible justification.
Yet that decision and the moments associated with it are linked to a single season of my life. We go through dozens of seasons in a lifetime, each presenting the opportunity to choose right or wrong behavior.
My life is not defined solely by my A. While it will forever be a part of what I have done on this earth, I have been given an opportunity to enter the next season of my life and make the right choices.
I commit myself now and forever more to focusing on what it will take to make Wells and the girls my top priority and to make them happy. I know that the more I give them, the more I will be able to move away from my season of pain and toward a season of hope.
I am accepting responsibility for the A and everything it has done. But I am also forgiving myself, knowing each day I give pure and total love to my family will be my sign that I am defined as a man of integrity and honor.
BW(her)- 57, FWH (me) 59. 4 month Online EA, M 32 years, together for 36. 3 Daughters and 1 Son - 32, 29, 25 and 24. D-day 6/2/07, in R. FORGIVENESS 1/1/2008!!!". Action expresses priorities." - Mohandas Gandhi
unforgivable5 ( member #38797) posted at 1:09 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
thank you for posting this. I was actually thinking about asking how WS's got through some of the tough times. I did not ask because it seemed selfish to ask as a WS considering what we have done to our BS's. Thank you so much
stillhere09 ( member #24924) posted at 4:03 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
You have a very healthy way of dealing with this whole ordeal.
Me-50 BW
Him-55,STBXWH
Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 4:06 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
It's great to see you LC 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
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