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libertyrocks (original poster member #38924) posted at 3:38 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
Is this what true R is? Trusting but verifying? My friend told me her cousin caught her husband cheating. They went to MC and a year later he did it again bc he didn't "fix" himself. We were both told this during a dinner at our friends house. H didn't say a word regarding the situation. I brought it up. Still, not a word from him...leaves me wondering...
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Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.
seamonkeydo ( new member #39493) posted at 4:42 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
You can trust him when your ready. If he is not showing you he can be trusted then there is no reason to trust him. He needs to be there and reassure you enough so that you feel comfortable enough to take that next step. I believe after an A trust is earned, not given
let your past make you better not bitter.
libertyrocks (original poster member #38924) posted at 6:06 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
No, he is showing my by his awesome actions.
I'm just not sure if I WANT him after he burned me so bad, y'know... 
Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.
cds22 ( member #39083) posted at 6:17 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
Well, I am new to this but I find it very helpful to my own boundaries about what I will do if I happens again. I am also working on a legal and financial plan with my long-time accountant and consulting an attorney about post-nuptials and other protections for me and the kids should it happen again.
On the whole, I have come to accept (painfully) that I won't ever have that kind of trust again. My marriage is going to have to be very present-oriented and enjoying it in the moment. Sometimes I think it is like being married to someone with a very serious illness who could die or become gravely disabled at any time.
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