There is one particular guy who is showing a lot of interest in me. I know it's wrong and I won't act on it, but I really like him and I like the attention from someone new.
This is how it all starts.
How has he had so much opportunity to show his "interest" in you?
Does he know you're married?
Don't go there.
You won't respect yourself in the morning.
I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.
From your registration date, you are very new to this mess. You need to focus on your marriage for now - no matter which way it turns out. That's enough to deal with without dragging an innocent bystander into the chaos. In the early stages it is very easy to say FTG and start looking. Hell, that's basically what he did, right? But do you really want to compromise yourself like that?
Go read the Madhatters threads. There are lots of people there that will tell you that 2 wrongs do not make a right.
Either divorce your husband and date freely after the papers are signed or stay committed to your husband and work on your marriage. Ultimately, the choice is yours.
Didn't you expect that same courtesy from your WH prior to his A? Do you want to be like him?
I was just so hurt by my WH's A that it was calming to be attracted to another guy. He was just eye candy, but it was oddly calming. I think because there was no pain attached to it. Being able to find this neutral almost happiness inside me was reassuring to myself that I was still me.
For me these feelings helped me to see that I still did love my husband deep down and that I just needed a little more strength to get past all the hurt and pain he caused me. In my experience happiness comes in waves and you just need to decide if your going to ride it for as long as it lasts or let it pass by.
I wish you luck in whatever your decision ends of being. Mine was my H
Take time to decide which way to go and commit to only path.
