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Reconciliation :
life goes on...

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 huRtZ413 (original poster member #39214) posted at 4:59 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013

and were the only ones standing still it seems everything round us is moving fast. every morning seems to pain the both of us and we stare at each other because we know he has to get ready for work and i have to tackle the day with 2 little ones 1&3 years old . he tells me that he doesnt look forward to work like he use to (he loves his job) that it now just seems like he is being ripped away from me and he gets lost in his thoughts on how he could of done such a thing to our family and that he hates being away and that all he can think about is melting away into my arms when he gets home . i feel the same because im not his biggest fan when he is gone but im dying to have him comfort me when he says he is on his way home . we txt throughout the day but its not help because like i said im no fan of his when hes out the house . so the msg's are misunderstood or hurtful and we doent have each other there to say whoo slow down im here blah blah blah .i hate that life goes on when im not ready for it . can you guys please stop your watches on top of it all me and my daughter's birthday is next month and im not feeling it ....she turns 4 and ill be turning 24 whoop for me ,


me_BW
him_WH


I'M ON THE FENCE


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Nailinmyforehead ( member #38427) posted at 9:28 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013

I understand what you mean about life going on. I always tell my WW that I wish we could make life stop around us a bit so we can get this fixed, but life seems to get in the way. You aren't alone in this feeling. I hate when we are apart, and we text all day, but sometimes, as you said- miscommunication.

"Son, you've got the future- shining like a piece of gold, but I swear as we get closer- it looks more like a lump of coal"

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2married2quit ( member #36555) posted at 9:55 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013

(((huRtZ413))) I know how you feel. If it's of any comfort, I'm one year out and it does get better. I couldn't focus on work and I was self employed. I'm still not sure how I made it all those months. I still have days where I lose focus, but it DOES get better. Just hang tight. You will survive this.

BS - Me 47 WS - Her 45 ( she's a childhood sexual abuse survivor)
DDAY -#1- June 2012/ #2 -June 2015 / #3-August 2015
Married 25yrs. 2kids
She had 2 affairs with two different men.
Status: divorced.

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 huRtZ413 (original poster member #39214) posted at 10:00 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013

sometime i wish i had a job to go to because here i am doing the same thing i was doing when he was out doing his thing .


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him_WH


I'M ON THE FENCE


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