Wow, this is not anything to mess around with. This is some serious shit.
Chico, you're awesome and thanks for sharing your insightful perspective. I always find something helpful in all your posts and replies.
Samantha, dear Ms. Baker, your are an amazing woman with so much knowledge, it's unbelievable how you have really broken down your man. Thanks for the hug, shake, and hug! :) I seriously need it.
Knowing, this addiction thing is bigger than I imagined. I just thought, if he quit drinking, he would stop cheating...Guess that's not the solution.
My conditions on letting him stay with the kids and I were, NC w/OW, MC/IC, and AA/12 step. Well, he's done all except AA/12step. Looks like that's the most important one!
I'm really not sure if I want this M with an addict/alcoholic after all. It may too much work than I can handle. I'm a career woman and great mother. If I'm not at work, on the freeway, I"m with my kids. H seems more like a chore. And, I really don't need him. Financially, physically, emotionally, I've been alone for 3 years, see my tag lines...
FUCK! I knew it. I knew it wasn't the booze. He's addicted to his ego being stroked and a variety of college chicks to bang. It was just a matter of time before the real him came out.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, everyone. You really have eye opening things to relay.
XOXO to all of you for trying to help me see what's really going on.
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 4:29 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)]