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User Topic: Christian counseling? But I'm not religious...
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm starting with a new IC on thurs that is with a Christian based counseling center. I'm not a religious person and I don't know of anyone that has gone to her. Anyone else have a Christian "background" counselor? I don't think worry is the right word but I "worry" that our sessions (if I like her) might turn into talking about my religious beliefs or praying etc and I really want to focus on my issues. If anyone has any experience your input is welcome!

ME- 38
WH- 44
DDay #1 8/2006 (before marriage)
DDay #2 8/26/11
DDay #3 9/13/16
Son-7 years old

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Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping in hopes that someone who can relate, will read and give advice.

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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, our MC was a Methodist pastor, heading up a counciling center that was based on the property of a church, so I guess you would call it religious. However we didn't discuss religion or the church in there at all. We discussed our marriage. We went, what I considered to be, off track a couple of times, but I dragged the discussion right back to the important thing, the state of our marriage because of infidelity.

I'd go in and see the counciler. First off, you do have to sort of interview them to see if they are someone you can work with. And you can let her know right up front that you're there to focus on your issues and that you are not interested in pursuing religious studies. But I would give it a try a good counciler is worth their weight in gold.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Based on some of the things I've read on this site, sometimes the A gets rug-sweeping with Christian counselors. I can't give any specifics, but I do remember reading this a couple times.

BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I used a Christian background IC.

The therapist just used what I supposed was basic stuff (never having been to any IC before).

There was no religious talk, except for our private chit-chat after the sessions.

Well, he did despise infidelity, and that is a moral (and religious) attribute, but we were in perfect agreement with that.

That was my experience for what it's worth.

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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Duplicate post. Please use this one

FBH - 46
FWW - 47 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 11 & 16

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