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lisakm1126 (original poster member #33378) posted at 7:02 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
I'm starting with a new IC on thurs that is with a Christian based counseling center. I'm not a religious person and I don't know of anyone that has gone to her. Anyone else have a Christian "background" counselor? I don't think worry is the right word but I "worry" that our sessions (if I like her) might turn into talking about my religious beliefs or praying etc and I really want to focus on my issues. If anyone has any experience your input is welcome!
ME- 38
WH- 44
DDay #1 8/2006 (before marriage)
DDay #2 8/26/11
DDay #3 9/13/16
Son-7 years old
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 10:49 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
Bumping in hopes that someone who can relate, will read and give advice.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 10:54 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
Well, our MC was a Methodist pastor, heading up a counciling center that was based on the property of a church, so I guess you would call it religious. However we didn't discuss religion or the church in there at all. We discussed our marriage. We went, what I considered to be, off track a couple of times, but I dragged the discussion right back to the important thing, the state of our marriage because of infidelity.
I'd go in and see the counciler. First off, you do have to sort of interview them to see if they are someone you can work with. And you can let her know right up front that you're there to focus on your issues and that you are not interested in pursuing religious studies. But I would give it a try a good counciler is worth their weight in gold.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
tabitha95 ( member #22033) posted at 10:59 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
Based on some of the things I've read on this site, sometimes the A gets rug-sweeping with Christian counselors. I can't give any specifics, but I do remember reading this a couple times.
BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).
Lifechange ( member #28837) posted at 11:30 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
I used a Christian background IC.
The therapist just used what I supposed was basic stuff (never having been to any IC before).
There was no religious talk, except for our private chit-chat after the sessions.
Well, he did despise infidelity, and that is a moral (and religious) attribute, but we were in perfect agreement with that.
That was my experience for what it's worth.
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 2:24 AM on Wednesday, June 12th, 2013
Duplicate post. Please use this one 
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=498862
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
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