D-day: Christmas 2011
You have to do what you need to do. How does it feel to be affectionate with your WH? You don't need to play that part unless you want to, unless it is authentic to you. You should be taking care of yourself and your needs. Nurturing and healing yourself. You have to do that no matter what. It is totally exhausting to play at happy and normalcy.
You don't need to answer to your family or his. But you have confided in your family members. This is the danger of sharing your story. they love you and are angry and hurt for you.
When you figure out what you want from your marriage, you will need to share that with your family. eventually if he does the work and supports you, they will be able to see and respect that. What do you want? What feels authentic? Do you want your WH to talk with your family and tell them what he did and how thankful he is to be married to you?
[This message edited by OnAnIsland at 4:33 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)]
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons
You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou