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User Topic: I want him back!
rumorhasit
♀ 38943
Member # 38943
Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want him back, I want our family back!
I wish I hadnt rashly ended things without knowing the whole story, I wish he hadn't turned his back on me when I did, and I wish we had worked this out! I wish he would dump her ass and ask to work on things! I wish he missed our family as much as I do. I wish he would realize that that crazy, manipulative bitch is CRAZY and stop listening to her!

I just want to be a family again.


BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin


Posts: 205 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Southern California
roughroadahead
♀ 36060
Member # 36060
Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you, and I'm right there with you. I know it's the right thing to do, but it isn't what I ever wanted. I, too, wish he had just freaking made the effort.

(((rumorhasit)))


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

Posts: 739 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
GreenMom
♀ 36385
Member # 36385
Default  Posted: 7:29 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((rumorhasit))))


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

Posts: 535 | Registered: Aug 2012
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((rumor))))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26209 | Registered: Aug 2011
wontdefineme
♀ 31421
Member # 31421
Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You want your life back, not some disrespectful man who would leave his family for some skank.

Time to let your previous life behind and know life without him is better than life with him.

Now be the best mom you can be knowing your example will influence who they will be as adults.

And we know how you feel, it is the fear talking.


Posts: 2181 | Registered: Mar 2011
Take2
♀ 23890
Member # 23890
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((rumorhasit)) I hear your pain, I'm so sorry. It is so hard, so cruel, so unfair!

more: (((rumorhasit))))


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4167 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Loyalty2Liberty
♀ 36714
Member # 36714
Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, June 11th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((rumorhasit))

The pain in your words is palpable. Nobody should ever be left wishing for such things.

He'll realize how manipulative and crazy she is in time. May the karma bus find him swiftly.


me:BW
him:stbxWh


Posts: 236 | Registered: Sep 2012
rumorhasit
♀ 38943
Member # 38943
Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Everyone))) Thank you. I just needed to let that out. When someone hurts you this way you're not supposed to want them back. And I am above begging. I am NC, bakery closed, etc. But I wish... I wish what we had was worth coming back to, to him. I feel cheap, and discarded.


BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin


Posts: 205 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Southern California
Vulcanized
♀ 33523
Member # 33523
Default  Posted: 12:57 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When someone hurts you this way you're not supposed to want them back.

Sometimes the heart needs a while to catch up with the head.

But I wish... I wish what we had was worth coming back to, to him.

I know exactly how you feel. But it is easier to just look forward, not back. There is no back there, kwim?

(((Rumor)))


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 773 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
bbee
♀ 17840
Member # 17840
Default  Posted: 1:32 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, honey, I hear you. Been there done that. (((rumor)))


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


Posts: 6656 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 4:27 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You want your life back, not some disrespectful man who would leave his family for some skank.

Everything wontdefineme said. The OW is inconsequential - just the lowest hanging fruit. If it wasn't her it would have been someone else. She didn't use witchcraft nor does she have any voodoo powers - he made a choice. Blaming her absolves him. HE did this - not her.

A wayward always finds a way.

I went through it too with OWUglyIndian (there were lots more - she is the DD one). She looked like an scraggly Indian man. It had nothing to do with her - it was all him and the black, black hole in his soul that he needed a bandaid for.

Focus on you friend. You need to grieve the life you thought you had and the life you thought you were going to have. You never had the life you thought nor were you ever going to have that life you thought with that man.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5660 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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