I just want to be a family again.
Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M
"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin
"And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be."
- Sarah McMane
Time to let your previous life behind and know life without him is better than life with him.
Now be the best mom you can be knowing your example will influence who they will be as adults.
And we know how you feel, it is the fear talking.
The pain in your words is palpable. Nobody should ever be left wishing for such things.
He'll realize how manipulative and crazy she is in time. May the karma bus find him swiftly.
When someone hurts you this way you're not supposed to want them back.
Sometimes the heart needs a while to catch up with the head.
But I wish... I wish what we had was worth coming back to, to him.
I know exactly how you feel. But it is easier to just look forward, not back. There is no back there, kwim?
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
You want your life back, not some disrespectful man who would leave his family for some skank.
Everything wontdefineme said. The OW is inconsequential - just the lowest hanging fruit. If it wasn't her it would have been someone else. She didn't use witchcraft nor does she have any voodoo powers - he made a choice. Blaming her absolves him. HE did this - not her.
A wayward always finds a way.
I went through it too with OWUglyIndian (there were lots more - she is the DD one). She looked like an scraggly Indian man. It had nothing to do with her - it was all him and the black, black hole in his soul that he needed a bandaid for.
Focus on you friend. You need to grieve the life you thought you had and the life you thought you were going to have. You never had the life you thought nor were you ever going to have that life you thought with that man.