.... I don't even know where to post this.
I asked him a question during breakfast this morning about why he didn't turn towards me during his affairs. I should have asked it after work and asked what I really wanted to know, if he will turn toward me now if something uncomfortable comes up....he answers "the same reason you did it."
Then he gets really upset and says how unhappy he is and should we split up or separate. I end up crying and he goes off to work.
I apologize for asking a question before work and he apologizes too.
When he gets home I told him what I wish I would have asked and he says he didn't tell about his affairs because he didn't want to. I ask did he want it to continue or did he not want to hurt me. He said there you go. I answer a question and you ask two more. I said these questions are important to me....
Then he tells me he is so mad at work he wants to text our kids to tell them to not bother us, we're having marital problems, he runs two red lights going to work and he follows a truck just like OM has, and would have killed him if it had been him.
I said wow, all that from a Mis-timed question?
He said every time I ask a question he feels like he's being punished. I said I'm going to occasionally need to ask questions, and they may be the same ones over again.
I ask what should I do? He says I am in denial, in the fog and unstable, we both are. He wants me to file a civil suit against the guy who raped me and nail him to the wall. I'm not sure I will do this. I probably won't because ive had enough trauma in my life and iit would only be because HE wants justice. But I'm talking to a lawyer Friday....he is willing to spend whatever it takes to do this....
I take offense to this badgering crap but I say as far as answering questions, as a former wayward, I will gladly do this for the rest of my life.....
He has two questions for me- where did I park my car when I went to OM's house - I tell him I park at the park and walk over... He says sneaky. Then he asks how the oM convinced me to come over and I say I thought we were just going to spend time together. He says how gullible I am. Yes, I used to be gullible..., I answer.
He is livid. I leave for a while and then he says hes sleeping in the other room because he's never felt more distant from me in his life and he will be tossing and turning all night.....
I have no idea how one question could set him off so much. Anyone else?