When a man cries, really cries....sobs...is he sorry? Truely sorry?
My WH has sobbed and cried in front of me about what he's done. But he was still doing it.... Since he has gotten serious about R and getting himself better, he has not really cried. At least not in front of me.
Tears,IMO,mean very little. Actions...what are his actions showing you?
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.