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User Topic: OW looks like BS!
♀ 38977
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any body's H OW look like you? I pushed my H away for years. He really didnt do anything for me sexually. Now his AP looks like me only he has sex all the time. Weird?

Posts: 108 | Registered: Apr 2013
♀ 38977
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh forgot to mention. Seperated and I filled for D. He left for her on our sons 14th BDay! The actual fucken day! Selfish. But glad hes gone

Posts: 108 | Registered: Apr 2013
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The wannabe looks a lot like me, except she's barely 5 ft tall. I'm 5ft 7.

My ex fiance's wifetress looks EXACTLY like me.

My friends all said "he married an OLDER version of you."

Posts: 3446 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nope. Both AP's
are about as different from me as you can get.

[This message edited by confused615 at 11:09 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)]

FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 15220 | Registered: Jan 2011
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

100% different.

Posts: 201 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 38378
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, OW has features like I do, same age, coloring, and a child same age and features as mine and his, but is apparently a giant form.

STBX felt it necessary for me to know these tidbits that I did not need or want to hear.

After seeing her photo, many people told me, "you are so much prettier!" Why did that feel so double-edged?

Yet apparently, there are opposite things about the woman, too.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 3034 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
♀ 39502
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, one of WH's whores looks something like me.

Me - 49 (BS)
Him - 51 (WH with "8 or 9" prostitutes)
Married 30 years, give or take a few weeks here and there
D-Day - May 4, 2013
Discovered an EA going on since 2010 around that time, too. NC in place now.

Posts: 88 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

opposite. But strange thing is ,OW looks like a past slut of his when he was single. ANd OW#2,(flirtations out of control ) also looked exactly like them. I have seen them all in person. They dont look like me, exact opposite, but hes attracted to the same look . its a slut look. And they are very slutty. SAme color hair, same hair cut, same figure type, same height. I always know immediately. A fantasy whore.

a trigger yesterday

Posts: 2934 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: athome
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't get it either. My WH pick a woman who was just a couple years younger, a little shorter but same body type, hair color & eye color. I mean WTF is up with that?? If anybody has the answer I would sure LOVE to know.

Ugh! Sometimes reality sucks.
BS (me) 31
WH (him) 33
OW - married Bar Whore Rig Rat
Married 14 years
3 amazing kids
DDay-3/03/2013 TT.The whole truth came out(hopefully) 06/09/2013
Currently on the roller coaster of R.

Posts: 48 | Registered: May 2013
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is the younger taller smaller boobed version of me. Even personality wise she was like me. The husband told me she was like me when we first got married.

Thanks pal.

I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 363 | Registered: May 2013
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would say they were all similar to who I was when I met him, but completely opposite of who I am now. He did not like my independence at all. He needs abused and emotionally broken women to suck in and feel sorry for him, to admire him, and think that he is a great guy. I told him he can have them because I can't downshift that fast. I admit that is who I was when I was 18 years old and emotionally broken from my parents divorce. I was very plain and simple. I am now a very successful woman that cares about myself and my looks..and he told me to gain weight. He likes and needs very insecure individuals surrounding him to make him feel powerful.

2DS, 2DD
BS-Me 32
WH-Him 43
DDay-All 14 years of our relationship. 3PA's, 3 one night stands, and 6 EA's and still counting as we go. Gained enough strength to face it 11/2012

Getting Divorced

Posts: 101 | Registered: May 2013 | From: United States
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes but 50% bigger.

BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes; she's a blander, shorter version of me

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25300 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Main OW had my hair cut and color. She outweighs me by quite a bit. We are almost exactly the same age. Last OW cut and dyed her hair to look just like mine less than a month after she outed their A. She is thinner than me and is working toward the same degree I already have. The other local one looks and acts nothing like me. The online women, I have no idea. Their profile pictures were not of their faces.

Posts: 1595 | Registered: Jan 2013
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, OW could practically be my younger sister. Same build, hair color, hair length, eye color, even the same dimple. We have the same advanced degree in the same subject. Scary stuff.

Thankfully, I know I am a better person than she is as I'd never do what she did. The only thing that really bothers me about us looking so similar is that I'm sure people assume she is the kids mom when they are out playing happy family. That makes me insane!

Me: BS 42
Him: WS 40
Married 10 yrs, together 13
DS-9, DD-7, DS-3
D-Day 5/9/12, 2 days before #3 was born
Filed for D 8/12; D final 4/13

"I used to be married but I'm better now"

Posts: 189 | Registered: May 2012
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, June 12th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No. Opposite.

MOW was 6" taller. Heavier apple shape with no waist. Short butch hair dyed the color of Ronald McDonald. Gigantic fake boobs that sag and have stretch marks. Multiple tattoos and private parts pierced. Homely.

I'm petite, 23" waist, long, natural very dark auburn hair and my breasts are an average size but still pert. No tattoos. Nothing pierced but my ears. I'm no Giselle, but I still turn heads.

BUT WH did try to morph her as much as he could in to me.

Wanted her to grow her hair longer and dye it my color. REALLY worked hard to try and get her to wear the same underwear I do. Offered to find a plastic surgeon for her to reverse her really bad boob job and clean up the scars and do lipo and a tummy tuck on her.

I really laughed when I read that offer in their skype chat. She didn't seem too overwhelmed by his generous offer I hope it still haunts her.

Me - BS
WH - old
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 1569 | Registered: Jun 2012
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Default  Posted: 4:55 AM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep we have similar features, but she is fatter and shorter then me & 2 years older then me.

And he is a hell of lot angrier then he ever.

I don't get it. But not my problem anymore.

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

Posts: 1530 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 5:03 AM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


But, a shorter, fatter, busted up version of me. She looks my age, while I look her age. And she dresses her self like a misfit. I shudder every time I've see pictures.

Actual quote from one of our friends "WTF? She ain't shit compared to you". And that came from somebody who liked XH way more than she liked me.

Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now: happy in life, happily in love with the RIGHT man -----> Everything is as it should be

Posts: 940 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: The Hostile City
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Default  Posted: 5:11 AM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, OW looks quite a bit like me except for the fucked up face she has. She dyed her hair and cut it to look just like mine shortly after the D Day! Wow! You really want my life that bad.

OW The weakest of the pack 41
DDay: 2/20/12 The most out of control day of my life
Trying to R - TRYING
DDAY2 5-10-14
Divorced 8/19/14

Posts: 74 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: In a state
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