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My WH was in the Dominican and says girlfriend in Spanish means something different. Also am told by him that giels there just want guys to but them beer.

He's lying.

And..let's say he's telling the truth...

First..why is he buying a beer for strange women?

Second,what makes him an expert on what all the girls want from men there?

He's a lying liar.

Im sorry.

Trust me I AM NOT defending him in any way shape or form I was looking for information. I am just wondering if any other people had issues in the Dominican was this. I have a rally long story attached to this. I know he's lying to me.

Are you asking if it's true..that girlfriend means something different in Spanish? If so,you can start a thread with that in the title,and you will get a response pretty quickly.

Im trying to understand exactly what info you're looking for,so we can help you in the best way possible.

ETA: I didn't think you were defending him...I was validating your feelings that he is a liar..sometimes the cheating spouse can make you feel like you're going crazy..I wanted you to know you're not...he's a liar.

[This message edited by confused615 at 1:36 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)]

Thank you. I am literally going out of my mind. I know that he is a liar. I know that he's not telling me the whole story. I just have to figure out how i'm going to handle it for myself. I am trying to be smart about how I do it. I printed the emails the phone records and took pictures of her phone number is his handwriting and emailed it to myself

Does his explanation pass the excuses vs reasons test for you? There are hos in every country- if they are flirting to get something in return doesn't matter what they are called. Just because they are a common ho doesn't make it a reason, just a sorry excuse to abandon morals and commitment.

Ok..they're emailing..then you can put a keylogger on his computer(google keylogger...many offer free 7 day trials). It will record everything he is doing..every chat..every email..all accounts and passwords..some will even record every keystroke..even if he deletes shit. Don't tell him you're doing this(of course). Unless it's a work issued computer..that's illegal..but if it's a home computer..you're fine.

Put a VAR in various rooms throughout the house..or just the room he spends the most time in if you're gone..it will record any phone conversations.

A VAR is a voice activated recorder.

Honey..I understand your panic..your anger..I so remember those days. If you can take a breath and tell us your story,we can help you. We want to help you.

Welcome to SI,BTW. Nobody wants to be here...but we're all so glad to have found this wonderful site. This is the kindest,most compassionate,most supportive group of people you will ever "meet."

He honestly has only given me excuses

Thank you for the info. I haven't seen any emails since last July there were only 3. The phone calls I found by accident looking for something else. What bothers me the most is that I gave him the opportunity to be completely honest. I don't what he thinks I can't handle at this point. I have been hit with pretty much everything in the last 2 months nothing would surprise me now. I believe the only reason I cannot get off this topic is I feel hes left a BIG piece of the story out and until I know everything I wont be able to move on like I know I need too.

I'm still waiting for pieces of our story...it's been 5 years now...I had to dig for almost all the puzzle pieces and find them myself.

I hope you have a better man than that...one that can at least fess up.

Good luck...((hugs))

It's called gaslighting and making excuses.

This is an excuse my 10 year old would give not a grown man.

I am sure someone on this site is hispanic and can verify girlfriend means girlfriend.

Somethings are universal like the middle finger.

He is hoping he can brush the lying and cheating under the rug and continue with his selfish ways and behavior.

Call BS on him now.

Girls that want them to buy them beer are also girls that usually give things up for attention and possibly money.

Human nature is human nature regardless of the country and nationality.

Stay strong. You deserve honesty and truth.

Good luck.

I am now wondering what else over out marriage he has done. I knew last summer just by how he was acting and now everything has just been confirmed what I knew. I know of at least 3 women with names in the DR. I Never thought this way about him before and now I cannot make it go away. Its all I think about