Good work .
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
Very well written.
Actions that are in line with our words.
My BW still tells me this. A reminder to me my word, and not my feelings.
Separated transitioning to D
I may not have all the answers but knowing this exercise is coming is helping me to focus on this aspect of our journey. (Maybe that should be exorcise as I feel that is what has to be done!)
We fully want to R but I am struggling with putting my thoughts out there in the knowledge that I will cause more pain. I know we have to go through this and I need to change - and I will - but I am scared nonetheless
Sometimes short messages have all the wisdom you need. LOL ... JKL ... you have come a long way since you first showed up here.
NewAttitude - stop thinking of yourself as a barrel and start thinking of yourself as a well. We are all wells with unplumbed depths that are hidden and ready to be tapped for reserve during bad and stressful situations. Don't limit yourself by imaging you are a barrel. You are a well and you can dig in and go as deep and far as she needs you to. There is no end to our abilities.
I try to explain this but I have never been able to so clearly and eloquently.
The actions, the effort, that is what would give me hope. To me that says, " I care, I am trying".
To not act, says to me, "I really don't care, you are not, we are not worth the effort".
Change, self awareness is crucial. It has been crucial for me to learn about myself and change. I need, not just want, but need to see the effort. Even if the change is slow to come, I understand how hard it is to really change, but the continued effort means so much.
The effort allows me to feel empathy. The effort allows me to encourage. The effort allows me to relax a bit, only because it proves the desire.
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
attempted R, it was all a lie
The purpose of all the introspection, the work, the words is to get it right going forward.