Liarswife, I'm so sorry. The only reason I replied is because I felt I really had to. We all know our spouses better than anyone else. We just know when we're not told the entire truth. My brother inlaw is also married to a Dominican woman, but they met in the US. Totally different scenario. Shes been one major reason why he is sober after over 20 yrs of drinking. She has even said she would NEVER allow her H to go to DR alone because woman are too aggressive there etc... It's a total bullshit illusion and most realize this sooner or later. I mentioned my brother in law's wife because not all DR woman and men are not the same. But being in DR is different than being born or raised here. Over there it is mostly acceptable for men to be womanizers. The mom's say "he's a man with needs, what do you expect" and most often blame the son's wife for the infidelity. The fathers raise their boys in this way. My brothers were born in DR and at the age of 13 my dad took my oldest brother to a brothel. Because my dad felt he needed to be a man already. My dad also visited the brothel. My brother NEVER returned again and said his first sexual experience was not as it should have been. My dad was great with his kids but he was not a good husband in the sense that he cheated and thought it was "life"
Our family moved to the US and my sister and I were born. My dad passed away when I was almost 6.
My mom raised us on her own. She made sure she drilled in our heads how men are suppose to treat a lady!! My brother has been married about 26 yrs now. He has talked about his childhood and told me in all his yrs of marriage he had never even talked to another woman inappropriately because how mother raised us and because of the pain she hid from all of this.
Keep your eyes open just as you are doing. The fact that he's denied all of this tells you that he's telling you " it never happened so I don't have a reason to apologize or want to fix things" there is zero remorse in his stories obviously. He really thinks he is not caught as long as he denies.
This will turn into a cat and mouse game. It's overwhelming and tiring.
As you can tell this hit home for me because I feel like I just wrote a book!
The numbness will fade and you will soon demand the respect you deserve. Do not waiver out of fear of losing him.
[This message edited by Offhispedestal at 10:13 AM, June 13th (Thursday)]
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)