I just posted about my adult DSS in my thread about Living a double life with my adult kids.
My DSS was 3 when we won custody of him. Mom had mental problems. DSS is ADHD.
He was a terror. Best birth control I could have ever had because he was such handful. I loved his Dad and loved him. Some days it was difficult to even like him when he was young.
I knew if I was in long term with FT, then I was also with DSS. It was a package deal.
If BF dumps and runs because of DS then that is for the best because DS isn't going away.
I just hope BF doesn't win DS's love and respect then bails a few years down the road. It took me everything I had in me to stay a few times. It was that bad !
Hugs and becoming a step family isn't an easy but I wouldn't trade DSS for anything.
[This message edited by gma56 at 3:16 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)]