Listening to friends (you guys) share about Disneydad syndrome made me reflect on my situation. All throughout our marriage, stbx had been a disneydad. I didn't know that I could have and should have required more of him. He was fun dad ~ movies, video games, tv, toys (action figures) and comic books. He never cooked the kids one single meal in their life and they are teenagers. He never helped with homework once. He never took them to the doctor or took care of them when they were sick. But he was there when it came to the fun and easy stuff.
Not that I'm not fun but I can't play video games for crap. A while ago, my son tried to teach me how to play Halo and I sucked!! But you know what, I can sit with him and watch youtube videos of gameplay or trailers for new video games. Tonight we watched the trailer for Battlefield 4 and it was awesome!
I may not have the attention span for a movie and I can't believe how much movies are but if it's important to the kids, then of course we'll go and have a great time.
Thank goodness they are not into action figures and comic books because I don't think I could get into that.
When stbx walked out, within ten days he had bought them 2 video games. I think my kids know that it's not ONLY about the fun stuff. They really needed him to step up and be a parent and he won't. Now they both don't want anything to do with him and he has stopped trying.
So I think in my situation, stbx was always disneydad and since he left, how do you become even more disney-dad-ish? I guess you can't.
To my friends that are struggling with a disneydad/mom, be patient and keep doing what you are doing. In time, kids will figure it out themselves.