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She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 2:32 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2013
Well....I know the old saying goes....."You have to kiss a lot of toads before you find a prince!" But, I truly believe my pond is nothing but a sea of warty toads and my prince must have hit his head on an indestructible lilypad and sunk to the bottom.....
So finally OLD guy shot himself in the hypothetical foot last night. I had given him my phone number (reluctantly after the last douche experience) trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. He asked more questions than shared information about himself. I asked questions but got pretty limited responses. He called my phone the other night and I thought...."Wow...maybe this could be a good thing"... It rang like twice, I answered....silence and then it went dead... followed by a text message saying "I tried to call you." I sent him one directly back saying, "I answered the phone but it went dead?" No response for 3 hours... when he said, "Oh sorry....I just finished getting a good workout"
Okey Dokey. Then, not much of anything yesterday..... except a good morning text and then one at like 10:40pm saying he had been busy and he was sorry for not talking more. I told him that was okay...I figured he was just the quiet type...and his response was...
"I'm not quiet once you get to know me.... here's a pic for you....good night sweet dreams"
AND...THE TOKEN SHIRTLESS IN THE BATHROOM MIRROR WITH THE CELL PHONE PIC.....
I was not amused. I was not intrigued. I did not respond. He was immediately blocked from my phone and the OLD site.
Sheesh. I will be taking my "picker" to the shop to be repaired....
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:34 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2013
His wife probably came into the room while he was calling you.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 2:43 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2013
OH! Yeah...I forgot to mention! He almost got blocked when he made an inappropriate comment! I texted him saying "I'm surprised you aren't married with children" and his response was... "I could be"
::crickets:: Then, he said "Well, we both could be"
And, my response was, "I was married for 5 years and my ex-husband cheated on me so I am absolutely NOT married!" I could hear the back-pedaling a mile away and he said he wasn't married either but had gotten close once. I asked him about her and he said that she was gorgeous...but not very educated. So, it couldn't work and they mutually decided they didn't want to get married. Deep. Very deep.
I should have blocked him then. Lesson Learned.
[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:43 AM, June 13th (Thursday)]
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 2:50 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2013
And I know I'm jaded (for now) but: late night only messages, terse responses, vague answers, and then - you can text me... that doesn't add up to "looking for a long term relationship". It does however fit with a guy already in one...
Douche.
Next...?
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 2:51 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2013
DEFINITELY....NEXT!
I'm on the verge of closing down my OLD site attempts for a while. My luck sucks. And, apparently, my picker is still broke. I tried to weed them out like my IC therapist said and look for guys that had similar tastes and education but FAIL.
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Got2GO ( member #26576) posted at 2:56 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2013
Let that one indeed bite the dust! I'm with you what is it with the shirtless cell phone pics? This is for the guys on this site. Is that suppose to be sexy or something?
BS (me) 47
WS (him) 70
Together 7 1/2 years
married 6 years
no children together
Happily divorced 1/29/13!
osxgirl ( member #8795) posted at 3:11 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2013
Got2GO -
I'm not a guy, but I do have a theory on that....
I think that guys that do that are going on the "I'll show you mine, you show me yours" principle. My guess is that they hope that giving a shirtless picture will prompt the woman to give a shirtless pic - and know that's an ambitious hope, but hope that at least maybe they'll get a bikini shot or something like that back.
And I think they are working on the same principle that spammers work on: sure, the approach won't be successful with 99% of the women they use it on, but that 1% that does respond to it makes it worth it.
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Also, I think the motivation for these pictures (the shirtless or other "sexy" pictures) is different from the ones who send pictures of their "best buddy" in all its glory.
I think those guys are the digital equivalent of the flasher in a raincoat. I guess the physical distance of sending a picture on-line vice having to expose oneself up-close and in-person has given a lot more weirdos the courage to indulge their exhibitionist tendencies.
[This message edited by osxgirl at 9:12 AM, June 13th (Thursday)]
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 11:31 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2013
I don't think this guy ever got out of the dust to begin with. He sounded lame from day one!
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 1:16 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
Cause seeing your half naked body with a toilet and a dirty towel in the background ALWAYS gets my engines going.
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 3:25 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013
So another guy that had emailed me on the OLD site emailed me today asking what I was up to and I told him that I was working and then planned on getting a run in after work and then taking my daughter home....and when I asked him what he was up to, his exact response was the following:
Well I have the day off so I've been trimming some trees in one of my fields. I just got back from the gym and out of the shower so now I'm trying to motivate myself to get dressed . Unsuccessfully lol
Wow.... just wow. Dropping my panties as we speak.
Needless to say.... he will receive "crickets" as a response to THAT!
Cause seeing your half naked body with a toilet and a dirty towel in the background ALWAYS gets my engines going.
Yeah... me too!
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
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