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purplejacket4 posted 6/13/2013 14:42 PM

One of my resident physicians found out her husband was having an affair. She left him and lived with our chief resident while getting the paperwork done for the divorce. She had filed but it was not finalized. The husband moved back to their hometown two hours away with the mistress.

Yesterday he and the AP had a huge fight that culminated in his shooting himself in the head, killing him. He did this in front of the AP. His best friend called my resident to tell her. Five minutes later the AP had the gall to call my resident. Luckily we had taken her phone away and another resident took care of that bitch.

The whole thing is so sad. I'm just grateful my resident was here at Gigantic Medical School with all of her support. She starts IC today with a therapist.

One of my interns remarked he thought Grey's Anatomy was fictious but it seems that shit is all true.

gahurts posted 6/13/2013 14:46 PM

Wow. That is so sad. I hope she is going to be ok.

Chefj9 posted 6/13/2013 14:49 PM

That just made me so sad... How horrible.

jo2love posted 6/13/2013 14:50 PM

(((purplejacket & resident)))

TrustGone posted 6/13/2013 15:00 PM

Oh my goodness, that is horrible. Unfortunately WS's do not realize what a mess they make when they start an A. Hopefully the BS knows that this had nothing to do with her, just like his A had nothing to do with her. It sounds like he had major issues he tried to cover up with the A and then realized what a mess he had made of his life. It is a shame he did not seek IC and took the cowards way out.

One of my best friends first husband also killed himself after my BF found out and filed for divorce. They had a daughter at the time and she hardly remembers her father now. Luckily she knows that he had major mental issues and has never blamed herself for his suicide. She remarried a wonderful man and they have been together for many years. She will get through this and heal in time. It is great she has such a wonderful support system in all of you. (((HUGS)))

DeadMumWalking posted 6/13/2013 15:14 PM

pj, please send ((((resident hugs))))

This is such a terrible thing, it shows how truly fucked up and broken some WS can be.

Please assure your resident that NOTHING she did caused this, and there was NOTHING she could do to prevent it. NOT. ONE. THING.

I cannot believe the nerve of AP. Or worse, maybe I can... thank goodness you all had resident's back, you'se good peeps

((((res))))

stratus722 posted 6/13/2013 18:03 PM

Grey's anatomy makes it seem so fun and exciting. Real life shows the real destruction. Such a sad story !!!!

MartlArts posted 6/13/2013 18:09 PM

So sorry to hear this. Sending up prayers for your resident.

stronger08 posted 6/13/2013 18:17 PM

Infidelity: The harmless vice. Instead of glorifying it like they do. Perhaps more stories like this need to be out front and center. The prisons and graveyards of the world are full of stories just like the one you described. Yet no one likes to talk about them. Makes me wonder what kind of place this world will be for my kids when they grow up. And I don't even want to think about when I have grandchildren.

gma56 posted 6/13/2013 18:22 PM

I'm so sorry for the BS and families.

When we warn of the possible dangers after dday and D/S. We know this or that the WS can snap and fatally hurt others. What is broken can sometimes be more than a boundary issue.

My heart goes out for the BS and thankful she has support and now IC.
Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 12:07 AM, June 14th (Friday)]

painpaingoaway posted 6/13/2013 18:52 PM

So sad. We've had a similar situation on our family, but it was a murder suicide. The AP is very lucky he didn't kill her first.

However, and this may sound callous, but, if it was going to happen, I'm glad it happened before the divorce was final, so the AP will not benefit from his death as far as life insurance, or inheritance issues go.

JMO.

SoVerySadNow posted 6/13/2013 19:23 PM

Very sad.

Snapdragon posted 6/13/2013 20:30 PM

I feel so sad for his family! I feel very sad for your resident, too. Residency is incredibly stressful under the best of circumstances. Add infidelity and filing for divorce and I don't know how she managed.

However, and this may sound callous, but, if it was going to happen, I'm glad it happened before the divorce was final, so the AP will not benefit from his death as far as life insurance, or inheritance issues go.

I thought the same thing.

SisterMilkshake posted 6/13/2013 20:38 PM

With you around, purplejacket4, I am sure she will get all the help and support she needs. So very sorry that this sadness has entered your life, too.

doggiemom12 posted 6/13/2013 21:05 PM

My STBX killed himself last year. We were still legally married so I got everything.

His 4 whores all had the gall to call me and two of them tried to get into his memorial service but were unable too. Classless bitches. I hope they are all very unhappy now.

The AP is very lucky to be alive at this point. Now she should fade into the woodwork like the cockroach she is.

Be supportive of your friend. She is going to have alot to get through for the next few months. She will find out who her husband really was and have to clean up the mess. But when that is done she has a chance at a real authentic life and she never has to worry about him again. I find that very comforting now almost 10 months out.

He did me a favor. I don't miss him.

FeelsSoRight posted 6/14/2013 07:15 AM

That is very sad, but I was thinking same thing as painpaingoaway:

However, and this may sound callous, but, if it was going to happen, I'm glad it happened before the divorce was final, so the AP will not benefit from his death as far as life insurance, or inheritance issues go.

I'm also glad she has a good support system in all of you.

Holly-Isis posted 6/14/2013 07:48 AM

PJ- I'm glad she has friends who have her back. Keep that...thing...away from the funeral if you can.

Add me to the number of people who thought at least the D wasn't final and the OW gets nothing from this.

I also seriously wondered if it wasn't murder rather than suicide.

itainteasy posted 6/14/2013 08:33 AM

Add me to the group that thought "at least they were still legally married at time of death".

So sad. I hope the OW stays far, far away from the funeral.

How awful for the widow.

I'm so sorry for her and their families.

purplejacket4 posted 6/15/2013 15:48 PM

His family acknowledged the AP in his obituary. Just blech.

gma56 posted 6/15/2013 15:52 PM

His family acknowledged the AP in his obituary. Just blech.

That is just plain sick ! They were still legally married !! WTH are they thinking ?

[This message edited by gma56 at 3:52 PM, June 15th (Saturday)]

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