update your profile. On OKC if you answer a question and add an explanation, you get highlighted on the updates page. This can increase traffic on your profile.
Also, don't be hesitant to contact first.
I don't know where you are but I think the websites vary on content and value depending on your location.
I also have to say that the paid site I am on is a huge disappointment to me. Not a "get what you pay for" proponent in this from me.
how about some good ole SI mojo? I will send positive dating vibes your way!!