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huRtZ413 posted 6/13/2013 15:58 PM

All I have is her first name the town and state .....and a possible college she may attend ....but I can't find her . I'm so depressed right now . I want to see what he saw I want to have been there that night . I'm drowning right now....she only knows his first name how would I know if she is pregnant ? ( they used protection) but still . I'm in such horrible pain right now .

sisoon posted 6/13/2013 16:35 PM

Focus on your pain - feeling it and letting it go.

Focusing on ow keeps the pain inside, hurting you. At this point, she's irrelevant and totally unimportant. Your healing is what counts, and it's the only thing you can control anyway.

libertyrocks posted 6/14/2013 14:40 PM

Take it from me. I have been torturing myself with looking up pictures of OW. It's horrible. Go to IC, work on YOUR issues, pain, and healing...

I'm just starting to heal myself.

Plus, it will never end. I want to see more pictures. It's horrible. I hate the place I brought myself to. I've been changing that.

Ostrich80 posted 6/14/2013 15:02 PM

I know its just human nature to want to see what the ow looks like. There'sa thread about it. If she's unattractive, you can't figure out why it happened, if she is attractive, it makes you feel insecure. Her looks really don't have much to do.with the why of it. Your ws confessed, that is a huge plus for your M. Some of us have never gotten a confession with a box full of
proof in our arms.
I will say though that it does help to.have a name or an image due to the fact that you don't want to be standing next to.her and not know who she is.
I'm so sorry your having to go through such hell. Read up on the healing library and see what true remorse looks like. There's an abundance of good info. I hope things work out for your family.

libertyrocks posted 6/14/2013 15:10 PM

As an answer to your question (I didn't give up looking, I created a minimal facebook and searched the heck out of that search engine until I found them...

You can type in a name and advance the search with a college name or city/state. You can even type in a phone #, that's how I found out about OW. Good luck! Oh, and don't use those online websites, they're rip offs. Also, check your phone bills! That's how I got my first lead...

[This message edited by libertyrocks at 3:11 PM, June 14th (Friday)]

Ashland13 posted 6/14/2013 15:22 PM

On the other side of this coin, I've seen a picture of OW and all it did was give me nightmares and horrible, wretched day visions. I wish I did not know anything about her.

It makes her real, and I would rather just her be a faceless demon.

And FWIW, just the thought of her name makes me throw up.

It didn't make me glad to hear, but sometimes there are answers that are better not to have and may just not come.

And at one point, hopefully HuRt, you'll get to a point where you don't want to know anymore.

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