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 APRIL2008 (original poster member #19690) posted at 12:00 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

I met a guy while out of town about 2 months ago. He lives 4 hours away.

Everything started out great we would talk/text every day. Then decided to meet up again. I spent a couple of days with him and everything was awesome.

Its been 2 months since we met and the talk/text is still constant not every day but we keep in contact at least every other day. We have been trying to meet up again but things just havent gone our way.

He is not the type of guy to say or text sweet things but he has. Maybe only twice, so I kinda called him out on it.

We were texting and I felt comfortable enough to tell him something.

The text went something like this:

" I would love it if you "spoiled" me a little more. I love when you say all those nice sweet things. It would be so nice to hear it more often"

That was 2 days ago and he has never replied back.

Did I mess it up?

Should I have not said anything at all?

Me BGF34
DD 16.5
DS 13.5

“Was it hard?" I ask.
Letting go?"
Not as hard as holding on to something that wasn't real.”
― Lisa Schroeder

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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 1:25 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

Based on your description, it would seem that he was ready for this. You spoke from your heart. My only concern is that text is a bad way to conduct a relationship. So much can be misconstrued. I hope it's just that he's in the hospital in a coma--sorry, hon, I'm kidding but hopefully it's just equipment problems or very busy at work...

How are you??

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

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D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

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cayc ( member #21964) posted at 4:42 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

It's hard to build a relationship via text. Even though it feels immediate it's still asynchronous communication, i.e. it's one way. Thus it's easy to miscommunicate & misconstrue.

But I'll also say that if a person it's going to reject you over one text, then they aren't someone you want anyway.

(((April)))

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Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 5:02 PM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

But I'll also say that if a person it's going to reject you over one text, then they aren't someone you want anyway.

Have to agree here. IMO what you said was from the heart and phrased in a fairly positive way. The right guy would be thrilled that you can be so straightforward, and have no qualms stepping up on the niceties a bit.

If you can't be you, like what you like, and be honest about it how is that going to work?

Hope you get some clarity soon, and that life is otherwise treating you well.

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 6:14 PM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

Have you called him to see what's going on?

Failure is success if we learn from it.

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 APRIL2008 (original poster member #19690) posted at 7:50 PM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

I got a few texts and a call. and Guess what?? He definetly took into consideration what I asked for. His messages have more meaning they are sweeter and his talk is too.

I am so glad I expressed what I was feeling.

yey!!

Me BGF34
DD 16.5
DS 13.5

“Was it hard?" I ask.
Letting go?"
Not as hard as holding on to something that wasn't real.”
― Lisa Schroeder

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