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 knightsbff (original poster member #36853) posted at 4:36 AM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

I think I would benefit from this. I have seen several mentions about how journalling has helped with healing and personal growth.

I'm hoping some of you wise people will share your approaches to journalling.

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KBeguile ( member #38348) posted at 5:38 PM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

My IC is the wise one here. He's come up with some AMAZING ideas since I've been to see him.

First was journaling in the first place, which I never would have thought of on my own. Second has been "choice of medium."

If it wants to come out as a picture, draw a picture. If it comes out as a poem, write a poem. If it comes out as a stage play, write the play. Don't force your thoughts/words/feelings to adhere to a single form because it's "normal." Draw, sing, write, act, sculpt; digital, physical, written, whatever.

The idea of the journal is a catalog of process. It's to look and see back in time, to verify that you're making progress, and to give you vindication and validation that things today are better than they were X days ago.

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SurprisinglyOkay ( member #36684) posted at 5:42 PM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

I've restarted journaling too!

It's something I've done on and off, since my first lavender, jewel encrusted, locking, diary at age 8

I'm rediscovering how helpful it can be.

I just sit and write. I don't think about what is coming out, I don't care if it makes sense, Hell, half the time it's barely readable. But it feels good to get it all out.

KB I like the different approaches that your IC suggested, not everyone is helped through writing!

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Pudding ( member #37168) posted at 6:14 PM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

BS here.

I have found it very useful. I keep a mood diary on my iPad. Every morning on the train home, I jot down what I am feeling. Its mainly about the A, but also other feelings. It has been really good looking back at the positive days, when I have been having bad days. Looking back, I can see how things have go better over time. I can see what things have helped and what haven't and I then have a more rational basis to talk to my FWH.

I have suggested that FWH does the same as I think it might help him, but he hasn't taken me up on it yet.

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Kelany ( member #34755) posted at 9:31 PM on Friday, June 14th, 2013

BS...

My IC recommended this and its been beyond helpful for me. I have a handwritten one and a blog. Its very therapeutic for me. I write much better than I talk sometimes.

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