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User Topic: Email from fwH
♀ 38619
Member # 38619
Happy  Posted: 8:45 AM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I posted earlier about my mood lately. My fwH has been trying to get me to talk about it but I have had a hard time articulating what was going on in my head. Since I write more eloquently than I speak I wrote him an email. Here is his response:
"I love you so much and I knew a lot of what you wrote. This is going to be a hard year for the two of us I know, but I also believe we are different as a couple even in this short amount of time. I feel closer to you now than ever. That's why I know and feel when you're hurting. I want to make it better magically but I know it will take time. Time is what we have a ton of. I am not going anywhere. I know where I belong. We will spend time together as a family and with each other. I love our time together. I look forward to it. I get the vibe sometimes that you feel you can't be in moods because you think I will leave. Nothing could be further from the truth. I am your husband and partner and am here for you to lean on. I hope you feel that. I did have a good time in MA last year, but I wasn't right in the head. I'm sorry for that. I love you. Lean on me please. I'm here....forever.
Love, fhW"

This helped a lot.

"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

Posts: 440 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
♀ 39141
Member # 39141
Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is lovely Mack. My WH has sent me a number of similar emails in the last month and it helps to see him committed to doing whatever it takes. Now I have to see the actions match the words. Wishing you and your H all the best.

me - BS
him - WH
Married 5 1/2 years
Dday#1 - 10/2009
Dday#2 - 3/2013
Status - He wants R, I am not sure I can get on that ride again

Posts: 41 | Registered: Apr 2013
♀ 39181
Member # 39181
Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's a great email

Me - BS
Him - WS (N3v3rG1v1ngUp)
Together 7 years, married for 2
He was cheating for 5 years
5 OW
D-days: 4/23/13, 4/27/13, 5/10/13
1 toddler, baby girl on the way in December

Posts: 160 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Illinois
♀ 38879
Member # 38879
Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Mack,

So happy to see he gets it. Bet of luck to both of you.

I so wish mine did. I sent him an email earlier this week. Posted it here. I got Nothing. I may share your fwH's email to show how how it's done. Mine could use the help.


BW - mid 50's WH - mid 50's
DDay - 3/2/13 - 2:07pm 2+ year EA/PA
TT until 2016 - why do they do that?

Trust is earned, respect is given, & loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one is to loose all three.

Posts: 516 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: SF Bay Area/NorCal
♀ 36456
Member # 36456
Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it!! Happy for all 3 of you!!

Me (46) WH (42),2 boys 15 & 11
M 18yrs T 22yrs
Separated 10 months (4/12 to 2/13)
Final Total - #1/#2 ONS and #3/#4 EA/PA - left me for #4, didn't know about #2 and 3 until he moved back home
We are solidly in R now

Posts: 792 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Dallas, TX
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